that's a very shit situation to be in
however it sounds clear that there was an obvious problem before you found the texts. You're right, you shouldn't go looking for trouble. When she gets home, sit her down gently and talk about your problems. Don't tell her about the phone, just say you're aware things haven't been right of late and ask her what she wants to do about it. Make it very clear that no natter what happens, you still want to be a good father to your daughter, and that you still love them both (assuming you still care for your girlfriend)
I dunno, does that sound about right? Stay calm and don't get shouty, it won't help.
(berk, Sun 6 Mar 2011, 10:20, 1 reply, 15 years ago)

^ This
If you want to leave her, leave her. There's no sense in fucking over the chance for a future relationship with your daughter though. It's hard, but try and stay as calm as possible.
(BelladonnaAnodyne Melissa's gonna wet herself, I swear..., Sun 6 Mar 2011, 10:25, Reply)

But take some advice from people more qualified than this website.
A friend of mine was in an relationship with someone, and they had a kid together, that was sufficient for her to be able to claim half-the-house.

With her share of the equity from a house she'd never paid a penny towards, she went and got a big telly and then went on holiday as having the cash in her account meant she'd not get any benefits.

As far as I know, she is still single, but has added to her clan with two further kids, both by different fathers.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Sun 6 Mar 2011, 10:29, Reply)