A police officer in Canada said "don't dress like sluts and you wont get raped"
To protest the idea that the victim is in some way resposible for rape and to raise awareness about that, women are marching some are dressing deliberatly provocativly.
(PsychoChomp, Thu 9 Jun 2011, 10:41, 2 replies, latest was 15 years ago)

I think the point the copper was trying to make is that
if you're wearing a gusset-brushing skirt with a top tugged down to nipple level, you're more likely to become a target for a prowler than if you're dressed more conservatively.

Which is a valid point, but too easily misinterpreted as "if you dress sluttily, you deserve what you get".
( Kroney, Thu 9 Jun 2011, 10:44, Reply)

missinterpreted or very very badly articulated by the copper

( Naked Ape call me Caitlyn, Thu 9 Jun 2011, 10:45, Reply)

You'd have to pick your words pretty carefully, yes.
Emotive subject, innit.
( Kroney, Thu 9 Jun 2011, 10:46, Reply)

I don't know if I agree
I bet there's some study somewhere that proves that most raped woman weren't dressing sluttily when attacked.

Until just a few years ago, a man in Spain could be discharged of rape if the woman he attacked was wearing tight jeans, as she was calling for sex with her clothes. I think it's about time men start learning to control themselves.
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Thu 9 Jun 2011, 10:48, Reply)

Women are every bit as capable of being as sexually aggressive as a male.
"it's time men learned to control themselves", is edging towards sexism.

The rest of your post I don't have a problem with
( Kroney, Thu 9 Jun 2011, 10:53, Reply)

You sound like Jeremy Clarkson
when the levels of sexual violence are spilt equally between male and female victims, then yes, you will have a point. But at this stage you don't.
(Bazongaloid, Thu 9 Jun 2011, 10:58, Reply)

Sexual aggression doesn't necessarily mean sexual violence.
Like I said, I don't disagree with most of her post. What I disagree with is her assessment that men need to learn to control themselves. I'm perfectly capable of controlling myself, thanks very much.
( Kroney, Thu 9 Jun 2011, 11:01, Reply)

Yes, you are, but clearly a lot of men aren't
or there wouldn't be a problem in the first place would there. She's not saying the problem with men is that Kroney is incapable of controlling himself.

And saying that women are just as capable of being sexually aggressive is like saying that every single person is just as capable of committing murder. Or course they are capable, but they don't actually do it.
(Bazongaloid, Thu 9 Jun 2011, 11:03, Reply)

I agree
Women have to learn to control themselves too, but we're talking about rape and women dressing slutty. I haven't said anything about men dressing properly or not, so I'm not mentioning women behaving properly either.
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Thu 9 Jun 2011, 11:02, Reply)

Read it, now
I used to dress like a slut a lot. Of course, I didn't do it because I thought it was sophisticated, but because I wanted to attract a guy and have sex. The problem is that although I wanted to attract 1 guy in particular, this dresses would usually attract a lot of other not so nice guys.

Now, our way to deal with it was to never be on our own, and if one of us was off to have sex with a guy we didn't know much, we'd fix a time and a place and the rest would pick the lucky one to make sure she was ok. And we'd never let a friend go with a guy if she was drunk.

So, women should dress as they want, but knowing that they're taking a risk and act in consequence, and men should learn to control themselves. In any case, many wome have been raped when wearing non-slutty clothes, so there you are. If a man is crazy enough to have violent sex with an unwilling woman, he won't be stopped for what she's wearing.
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Thu 9 Jun 2011, 10:46, Reply)