I think that encouraging someone to cheat
and being the person cheating are equally as wrong. Just because you're single and not breaking the vow doesn't absolve you from cheating and hurting; it's not something I would ever do.
(berk, Mon 25 Jul 2011, 21:54, 2 replies, latest was 15 years ago)

In theory I agree
In reality, I have never and would never cheat, but I did once get involved with a girl whose relationship was on the rocks. In my defence I can't remember how far we got before she left him (it was a long time ago I don't think we got physical) and we were together for 2 years.

I felt bad about it at the time but I did do it, and I can see possibly doing it again, which I can't say for cheating, so there's a difference in my head anyway.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Mon 25 Jul 2011, 21:57, Reply)

There's plenty of people that cheat without being encouraged to.
The first time I was almost in a relationship I had no idea he was already with a girl, was moving in with her, and they'd been together for three years.
( Lisette von Falcon, Mon 25 Jul 2011, 22:00, Reply)

That's different though
You had no idea and were therefore not culpable. If you'd found out and continued to see him then you'd be at fault. In my head at least.
(berk, Mon 25 Jul 2011, 22:02, Reply)