Don't be horrible
it's rare that I get this attached and mushy, so don't spoil it for me. I can honestly say this is the first relationship I've been in where I genuinely wanted to spend and could see myself spending the rest of my life with them. You know, kids and mortgage and all that crap.
Of course, I haven't told him this and it'll probably never happen. But here's hoping, eh?
(berk, Thu 22 Sep 2011, 19:10, 2 replies, latest was 14 years ago)

:D
then genuinely I wish you good luck. And you probably should tell him one day, he might feel the same way
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Thu 22 Sep 2011, 19:11, Reply)

Oww, bless.
Do you think TB feels the same?
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Thu 22 Sep 2011, 19:12, Reply)

he says some very sweet things
not often, but occasionally. And he does sometimes joke that I need to get a better job so we can buy a house with a massive garage for all the classic cars we want.. ditto joking about getting a dog. I dunno. I don't want to get all serious on him and scare him off, he says he loves me and I'm happy with that for now.
(berk, Thu 22 Sep 2011, 19:18, Reply)

The 'L' word is a big step.
Of course, if he really loved you, he'd get a really really good job, so you could either give up work altogether, or you could just keep doing a job you like.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Thu 22 Sep 2011, 19:20, Reply)

academia and children do not mix well
sooner or later I will probably end up in the nhs anyway. the pay is still pants but at least there are more prospects.
(berk, Thu 22 Sep 2011, 19:25, Reply)

You might have got your PhD by then!

( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Thu 22 Sep 2011, 19:27, Reply)

meh, unlikely
masters, maybe. And post-doc roles and children go even less well together than the job I'm in now. Especially since I'd be 30or more by the time I finished my phd, then i'd need to have at least one job before kids or risk ruining my career before it's even begun. so that's mid-30s at least. leaving it awfully late, I can't deal with lack of sleep now, I'd be hopeless when I was old.
(berk, Thu 22 Sep 2011, 19:37, Reply)