Anyone who think looks are irrelevant is daft
Despite me mentioning the book throwing etc online the answers are Yes she does make me happy, and laugh and I enjoy spending time with her and my children and I love them all dearly. She is clever and I trust her, she is honest kind and for the most part generous.

However if she was pig ugly I probably would never have noticed her in the first place. Sexual attraction isn't everything but it certainly isn't irrelevant.
( Peej, Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:24, 1 reply, 12 years ago)

there is a difference between pig ugly and looks being irrelevant
pig ugly is an extreme. if someone is within normal parameters, it should be all about what they are like as a person.

in fact, the better looking someone is, the worse a person they are, usually. if you want shallow and arrogant, go for looks.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:27, Reply)

Aren't you the one who's always banging on about AMAZINGLY HOT GUYS all the time?

(Reverend Fister "a disciplined fuckwit", Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:29, Reply)

in an ironic way, maybe
of my most serious relationships, 2 have been hot, 3 average at best, and 1 downright fugly. it's all about humour and intelligence for me. if they don't make me laugh, it doesn't matter what they look like!
( rachelswipe with a fork, Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:31, Reply)

And where does GREGGS HAT fit into that?

(Reverend Fister "a disciplined fuckwit", Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:33, Reply)

he was fucking hot
but did it make him happy? he spent the entire time whining about how fat he was (he had a 28 inch waist) and how he couldn't work out properly because he had injuries. being obsessed with what can only ever be a diminishing return, whether in yourself or other people, will never make you happy.

that's not to say you shouldn't do your best to look nice and be fit, of course, but it should be a goal not a raison d'etre.

here endeth the first lesson of the book of swipe.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:36, Reply)

Are you not the one who's always on some crazy fad diet, starting new exercise regimes etc?
You sound well suited.
(Reverend Fister "a disciplined fuckwit", Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:48, Reply)

yer, and who do you think set me off on that track?!

( rachelswipe with a fork, Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:49, Reply)

He was a four-foot bud-bud with a hand condition and appalling taste in titfers.
Not 'fucking hot'.

He's from a 'fucking hot' country, that's the the only way I can use that phrase in connection with him.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:53, Reply)

hahaha

( rachelswipe with a fork, Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:58, Reply)

Define normal parameters.
You said looks are irrelevant. You're either lying or naive.
( Peej, Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:41, Reply)

4'6 or 300lbs and it would be fair enough
but if someone is normal looking, ie healthy and pleasant, then you shouldn't say, "oooh, i couldn't be with him/her because they're not hot enough for me." similarly if someone is a total cunt but they are gorgeous, that doesn't mean that it's a good idea to overlook their personality defects. fine if there are other good reasons, of course. but not just on looks. that's gross.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:48, Reply)