If I was with a guy for a year and a half and we were going on seperate holidays
then I would expect a couple of texts a day to say what they were up to. However, festival rules apply here. You don't always get great coverage, batteries die etc... so she should have allowed you some space.

Sounds to me like she was looking for an excuse to get out if it took just two days of no contact to dump you.
( fuck shit up the best you never had, Tue 16 Jun 2009, 20:04, 2 replies, latest was 17 years ago)

hmmm
well this is just the latest manifestation of a recurring issue. i suspect it's not a dumping offence on its own but combined with previous problems...

of course this does put more of the blame on me, because knowing she was sensitive to this sort of thing, I should have made sure I did something about it.
(beanojam isn't really Ricardo Flange, Tue 16 Jun 2009, 20:08, Reply)

Well she could have always called or texted you
so you're equally to blame then if we're apportioning blame
( fuck shit up the best you never had, Tue 16 Jun 2009, 20:14, Reply)

yes, i accept that
but as i said somewhere up there, i'm not trying to blame either of us, i was just after opinions about the particular situation. it's rather snowballed into something a bit soap-opera-esque now, which has kind of taken me by surprise, given that most of the time i have nothing to say on either OT or QOTW...
(beanojam isn't really Ricardo Flange, Tue 16 Jun 2009, 20:22, Reply)

You said just above my reply that you felt you were more to blame, so I was reassuring you that it takes two sometime

( fuck shit up the best you never had, Tue 16 Jun 2009, 20:33, Reply)

oh i see
thanks :)
(beanojam isn't really Ricardo Flange, Tue 16 Jun 2009, 20:35, Reply)

A couple per day?
Really? If you're both enjoying different holidays? If you always send each other lots of texts and are that kind of couple then that might be really nice. But hypothetically, I wouldn't EXPECT someone to take time out twice a day to update me or even say hi. Maybe that's where I'm going wrong. Maybe my whole approach to relationships is skewed!
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Tue 16 Jun 2009, 20:12, Reply)

After a year and a half, you come to expect certain things
not checking up on each other at all, but just saying hi, this is what I'm up to.
( fuck shit up the best you never had, Tue 16 Jun 2009, 20:13, Reply)

Hmmm
I don't think that would work for me. I'd feel like a pest if I text that often from holiday - even more so after a year and a half than in the first frantic flush. But like I say, I'm probably not normal.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Tue 16 Jun 2009, 20:16, Reply)

then i'm not normal either
yes, if it was early on, but not after 18 months.
(beanojam isn't really Ricardo Flange, Tue 16 Jun 2009, 20:18, Reply)

see, that's where i agree with you
i wasn't expecting her to text me. she was on holiday in france with her son! to a certain extent i felt it wasn't my business. we'd just compare notes when we got back...
(beanojam isn't really Ricardo Flange, Tue 16 Jun 2009, 20:15, Reply)