don't buy her flowers
or alternatively stop aggravating her beyond human endurance by 'after much pissing about and questioning' and just accept that doing something nice is about just that, and not the reward or reception of that good deed
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 13:53, 1 reply, 16 years ago)

that's true
it should be an almost altruistic gesture, although I can understand why he's getting annoyed if it's every time. I'd get pretty pissed off if my attempts to make my partner smile were always met with hostility.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 13:56, Reply)

that's true
in which case he should definitely just stop buying her flowers. Chances are she won't even notice, in which case she probably doesn't even like flowers that much
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 13:59, Reply)

She'd just complain
Or suggest that I don't care any more.
(james_tiger_woods is going to start his killing spree on the, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 14:00, Reply)

then tell her straight out
you're tired of being doubted over it.

Sometimes straight talking gets you places. Don't buy them for her, and if she notices tell her you thought she didn't like them.
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 14:01, Reply)

I did
And she replied with a roll of the eyes and said "God, you're always going on at me" - my response? "Only because you do this EVERY FUCKING TIME" - but she still doesn't get it.
(james_tiger_woods is going to start his killing spree on the, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 17:48, Reply)