Why are you lot (women) so un-bloody-grateful?
I'm working from home today (I couldn't be arsed to get up at 6 as our daughter was awake at 4-5am). My OH went out with our daughter (thankfully as she - the daughter - was being a PITA) and I popped out to the town near us.

My OH is off out tomorrow night and I wanted to buy her a card to put in her bag so she can find it and open it when she gets to where she's staying - it's something I do when she goes out or stays away.

While I was out, I picked up some daffodils as, well, they're nice.

I get home and she gets home about half an hour later quizzing where I've been - after much pissing about and questioning I tell her that I've bought something for her, her response? "Why, it's not my birthday or anything". I respond with a "Fine, I'll give it to you now then shall I?"

I get annoyed and stomp off as she's not even acknowledged that the daffodils are for her yet - I, childishly, throw back a "oh, you're welcome for the flowers". About 15 minutes later she does say "thank you for the daffodils"

Annoyingly, this isn't isolated - 9 times out of 10, when I buy her flowers, she never just says thank you - it's always "why" or "what have you done wrong" or equivalent.

Frankly, it fucks me off - why not just say "Thank you for the flowers" and/or accept that when I (or we - men that is) say that "I'm not telling you why I've done x or y just yet" without 20 fucking questions.

I know I'm not alone in this as a friend of mine says that his wife does the same.

I've said this to her every time (just about) she does this and it annoys me - She just won't/doesn't bloody listen.

It's two words. Two. Fucking. Words. Even if you want to quiz me about it.

Thank you - that's all I want sometimes - not fifty fucking questions.
(james_tiger_woods is going to start his killing spree on the, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 13:42, 52 replies, latest was 16 years ago)

abrv muac

(PsychoChomp, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 13:43, Reply)

Eh?

(james_tiger_woods is going to start his killing spree on the, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 13:47, Reply)

"abbreviations make you a cock"
but seriously why don't you just stop buying her flowers?
(PsychoChomp, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 13:50, Reply)

Haha
I reckon he she should dump the ungreatful bitch, listen to some eminem, that'll give him some ideas. Ovbously he doesn't love her as much as the night he spunked up her fanny and left the condoms on the shop counter with the change because he was so excited by the prospect of an easy cheap lay.
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 14:14, Reply)

Then stop buying her flowers.

( girlinthehole, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 13:49, Reply)

she's insecure
or she doesn't trust you
TAKE YOUR PICK
( Lisette von Falcon, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 13:50, Reply)

Buy her a bunch of flowers with all the heads cut off.

( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 13:50, Reply)

or buy a bunch of flowers, soak them in petrol and light them as soon as she accepts them.

(PsychoChomp, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 13:51, Reply)

Your daughter is a flat, rounded pocket bread?

(LongJohnBaldry, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 13:51, Reply)

No, she's a militant animal rights organisation.

(PsychoChomp, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 13:52, Reply)

And he's...buying flowers for his beloved hydroxyl radical?

(LongJohnBaldry, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 13:57, Reply)

Ha ha!

( K2k6 has a proper job these days, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 13:58, Reply)

(Some days you really can play 'spot the scientist' on here, can't you?)

(LongJohnBaldry, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 14:11, Reply)

I'm going to start
laughing at your geek jokes now so you think I'm one too.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 14:55, Reply)

you can tell the geeks on my facebook,
I just changed my status to "is sick of office politics and wants to be a scuba diver where my only colleagues are the little fishes" and one friend wrote "and nitrogen narcosis"
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 14:56, Reply)

I'm always really grateful when my bloke buys me flowers
because he doesn't do it very often. The first time he sent me a dozen roses to my office I was torn between "awwww that's sooooo sweet" *smushes* and "hmmmm....what's he done?'.

Women are naturally suspicious, but the good ones keep it hidden until proof of wrongdoings are evident.

It works both ways, maybe she should get you flowers sometimes. Or something you'd like. I bought my boyfriend a giant space hopper last week, it arrived yesterday and he was very pleased. Tell her you want a space hopper.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 13:52, Reply)

don't buy her flowers
or alternatively stop aggravating her beyond human endurance by 'after much pissing about and questioning' and just accept that doing something nice is about just that, and not the reward or reception of that good deed
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 13:53, Reply)

that's true
it should be an almost altruistic gesture, although I can understand why he's getting annoyed if it's every time. I'd get pretty pissed off if my attempts to make my partner smile were always met with hostility.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 13:56, Reply)

that's true
in which case he should definitely just stop buying her flowers. Chances are she won't even notice, in which case she probably doesn't even like flowers that much
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 13:59, Reply)

She'd just complain
Or suggest that I don't care any more.
(james_tiger_woods is going to start his killing spree on the, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 14:00, Reply)

then tell her straight out
you're tired of being doubted over it.

Sometimes straight talking gets you places. Don't buy them for her, and if she notices tell her you thought she didn't like them.
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 14:01, Reply)

I did
And she replied with a roll of the eyes and said "God, you're always going on at me" - my response? "Only because you do this EVERY FUCKING TIME" - but she still doesn't get it.
(james_tiger_woods is going to start his killing spree on the, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 17:48, Reply)

Or MTFU

( Peej, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 13:55, Reply)

I agree
Make The Flowers Unbelievable
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 13:56, Reply)

Absolutely. Get flowers with DINOSAURS

(LongJohnBaldry, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 13:57, Reply)

Or some daffodildos

(LongJohnBaldry, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 13:58, Reply)

haha!

( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 14:02, Reply)

It's the gesture
They're flowers - just fucking flowers - because I want to show that I care.

I like getting her flowers and I like fresh flowers in the house.

I've said that I'm never buying her flowers again and she gets arsey about it.

I don't think it's insecurity or trust - it's just bloody ridiculous.
(james_tiger_woods is going to start his killing spree on the, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 13:59, Reply)

She's bound to be a bit hostile after all your affairs got made public.

(PsychoChomp, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 14:00, Reply)

If you want to show you care
Stop buying her gifts that make her suspicious.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 14:06, Reply)

Hmm
You're right - flowers. Very suspicious...
(james_tiger_woods is going to start his killing spree on the, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 14:08, Reply)

Clearly they are
If buying flowers means you and your Clunge fall out.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 14:13, Reply)

"I like fresh flowers in the house."
there's your problem

you're a big gay
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 14:17, Reply)

hit the nail on the head
no wonder she goes fucking mental
(bamboozled Can hear you getting fatter, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 14:20, Reply)

I don't really see the problem here.
It appears you're choosing to focus on this trivial matter to deflect your attention away from the myriad massive failings in your relationship. I suggest you both go out and learn how to gut a goat to put your issues into perspective.
( Noeli overtheshoulderboulderholderthingstraplatchboobs, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 14:06, Reply)

You should have your own tv show.

( girlinthehole, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 14:08, Reply)

Bah
I'm on a loser with all this - If I do, I'm quizzed - If I don't, I don't care.

Fuck it, I'm not going to buy her anything ever again. I bloody well give up.
(james_tiger_woods is going to start his killing spree on the, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 14:08, Reply)

OR
continue to try and show her you care and get over the fact that she won't ever validate your gestures by thanking you. Toughen up a bit Jim, you sound like a girl.
( Noeli overtheshoulderboulderholderthingstraplatchboobs, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 14:11, Reply)

^ this
or happily surprise her with that news of the threesome with her best mate
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 14:14, Reply)

I do, I really do
She's always been like this - always - but that doesn't mean to say that I would just like a simple "thank you".

It's just a bit hurtful sometimes.

***Mans up***
(james_tiger_woods is going to start his killing spree on the, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 14:21, Reply)

Under each message is a 'reply' button.
Please use that in future, so us who are trolling you, can tell who's winding you up the most.
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 14:20, Reply)

Click click
Heads for the bell tower with the rifle...
(james_tiger_woods is going to start his killing spree on the, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 14:22, Reply)

Good man !
Now dump that zero and get yo'self with a hero.
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 14:28, Reply)

Kick that bitch to tha kerb maaaaan

(Flim-Flam the Magnificent "You is talking loco and I like it!", Thu 25 Mar 2010, 14:27, Reply)

You homewrecker

(PsychoChomp, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 14:32, Reply)

Mwuhahaha!

(Flim-Flam the Magnificent "You is talking loco and I like it!", Thu 25 Mar 2010, 14:34, Reply)

Its all about respect!

( Peej, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 14:56, Reply)

NEVER, EVER buy a woman a gift as an apology.
Apologise. Properly.
Buy gifts for occasions or simply as an I love you and without the apology thing they won't be misinterpreted.
Or am I just being naive? Works for me anyway.
(porkylips looks better as the sun goes down., Thu 25 Mar 2010, 16:17, Reply)

But but but
They were a spur of the moment thing - I was passing a market stall and they had some nice looking daffs, so I bought them.
(james_tiger_woods is going to start his killing spree on the, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 17:47, Reply)

Maybe this time you did the right thing,
but if you have history of doing the apology thing, then she may have been right to suspect something was up.
( Bartleby A dead man on vacation, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 17:51, Reply)

Well
Well, it has happened, but this time, there was no reason.

Don't worry my b3ta friends, it won't happen again. Evah* !

*Or ever, depending on whether I choose to use text-speak.
(james_tiger_woods is going to start his killing spree on the, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 18:05, Reply)

Punch her in the fucking tits.


Sorry, 'PHITFT'
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Thu 25 Mar 2010, 16:54, Reply)