Hmmm. He could've used better phrasing.
Why should we be different? I'm not arguing that there aren't necessarily innate biological differences (the jury is out on the impact of those) but why should we be different? Unfortunately for porkylips, his choice of words "I don't want equal women" could easily be construed as inflammatory (was it intended as such?), as is the idea that he can want women to be a specific way.
( crackhouseceilidhband Fuck off back to Mumsnet, Wed 31 Mar 2010, 10:10, 1 reply, 16 years ago)

I think there is a difference in perception
whether that has come about because of the way things are in terms of non-equality, or whether it is a brain thing I don't know, but examining our different views on what is a pretty simple statement from porkylips is fairly telling.

I doubt many men would place any significance on the "I don't want" part.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 31 Mar 2010, 10:14, Reply)

And is that difference biological or social/cultural, eh?

( crackhouseceilidhband Fuck off back to Mumsnet, Wed 31 Mar 2010, 10:16, Reply)

I suspect some of each
hard to tell though without being more of a student of psychology.

we all know that men and women place different significance on different things, but I don't think it is clear cut which are affected by biology and which by culture.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 31 Mar 2010, 10:17, Reply)

We have a history of subjegation which makes us see things differently to men.
I suggest that if it interests you then you read up on feminism. If it doesn't interest you then no probs but don't try to argue about that which you know little about.

Edit - Plus I'm not very good at putting across what I mean so reading about it would be preferable to my ranting.
( girlinthehole, Wed 31 Mar 2010, 10:26, Reply)

understood
I wasn't arguing so much as trying to clarify a couple of bits of male thinking, which I do know sometihng about, and to seek some clarification of my own.

edit: I know what you mean about not getting your point across, I struggle. As we can see from the above, words mean slightly different things to different people.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 31 Mar 2010, 10:29, Reply)

I remember starting uni and reading loads of books about all aspects of feminism and being blown away.
I wasn't fully aware of my situation until then so I understand where you are coming from.

It really is very interesting stuff.
( girlinthehole, Wed 31 Mar 2010, 10:35, Reply)

It certainly is interesting
I was astounded by how, when I tried to look at things objectively, society generally caters for me as a man so much more, especially in terms of career expectations.

It made me angry at first, but then hearing from rabid fundamentalist feminists made me feel as if I have nothing to contribute as a man, so as far as I'm concerned the problem is best ignored.

It's like they've built up this image of the evil uncaring patriarch so fervently that they don't want men any other way.
(StapMyVitals wouldn't mind a bit of that, Wed 31 Mar 2010, 12:43, Reply)

but they are the minority
the majority of woman simply want equality. They don't want to smash men in or rape them or keep them in zoos. They want the knowledge that they are as likely to get a job, keep it and make their own choices in life, and at the current time that is not in place
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Wed 31 Mar 2010, 12:48, Reply)