I had something similar to this with own Mentalex a few years back
Now mine nowhere near the same league as yours, but she did present similar symptoms - calling me up, not long after we'd broken up, crying and whingeing because some arsehole with whom she'd just had a one-night stand wasn't interested in seeing her again. I cared partly as it was basically my ex ringing me to tell me she'd had it off with someone else, you know, just to make sure that old wound stayed open, but then I also cared because I had loved her at one point. And, like yourself, for some reason I felt sorry for her.

As for why she's turned to you specifically...does she have friends of her own? I know I got my ear chewed because my ex had a habit of driving any other friends away. I suppose there is also the issue that, if your daughter's likely to have a half-sibling some time soon, it's probably best that you hear it from the mother first.

In my own case, the best thing I ever did was to finally MTFU and tell her to fuck off, however clearly your daughter makes it a much more difficult decision. I wonder if it might be in your daughter's best interests if you can be vaguely supportive and keep things civil between the two of you, but at the same time you've got to watch out that the bitch doesn't start taking advantage of your good nature.
(LongJohnBaldry, Thu 8 Apr 2010, 13:32, 1 reply, 16 years ago)

She has very few friends I suspect., being a CUNT and all.
And yet I cannot help feeling sorry for her. I wish I was harder-hearted but it seems I am indeed the shirter I am so often accused of being, when it comes to matters such as this.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Thu 8 Apr 2010, 13:40, Reply)

SCORE!

( Davros' Granddad a voice of calm reason in a world of spastics., Thu 8 Apr 2010, 13:49, Reply)

You feel sorry for her because you're not a cunt
To be honest, being simultaneously dumped and unexpectedly pregnant is not something I'd wish upon anyone, however much of a cunt they were. I'd be inclined to suggest thinking coldly and logically about what is going to be best for your daughter in all this, and above all making sure psychomum doesn't stop you seeing her, or use her own situation as an excuse to suck your blood for nine months.

(But then that's my great-big-shirter logic for you, and comes with no warranty or guarantee of good sense...)
(LongJohnBaldry, Thu 8 Apr 2010, 13:55, Reply)

It's sound advice, thank you.

( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Thu 8 Apr 2010, 14:14, Reply)

It is, actually.
Listen to the Crow, Monty, for his is a wise beak indeed.
( Davros' Granddad a voice of calm reason in a world of spastics., Thu 8 Apr 2010, 14:41, Reply)