It's a traditionalist thing
marriages were originally stronger because divorce wasn't an option. It's not necessarily true anymore because you can divorce at the drop of a hat, but I personally still want to get married because I like the idea of it. I know it's only 'a piece of paper' but I would want my kids to all have the same name and when I get married I intend it to be forever, so I think of it as signifying a strong union.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Wed 12 May 2010, 16:49, 2 replies, latest was 16 years ago)

signfying a strong union succinctly puts my view of it
that's why I'm doing it. I'm not intending to have any kids, so the name thing isn't an issue, but if I was, then it would be.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 12 May 2010, 16:51, Reply)

It kind of bugs me when people say it doesn't mean anything
because it does to me. One of my friends said she was surprised that I wanted to get married because she thought I was more sensible than that which really pissed me off because it might be a silly tradition that doesn't have the same value as it did 500 years ago, but I still think it's the strongest of committments. She described it as a person's way of making sure the other person never leaves, which was cynical and not really true now that divorce is so easy.

Really I just want a massive dress and for everyone to pay attention to me for the day.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Wed 12 May 2010, 16:56, Reply)

I agree with you about the commitment
I love Mrs V, and a very good way of showing that is marrying her. so I'm going to.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 12 May 2010, 17:00, Reply)

damn that was my plan
she shall have to choose between us.

I challenge you to a duel!

*glove slaps*
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Wed 12 May 2010, 17:04, Reply)

oh god
not another b3ta woman who wants my gf....
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 12 May 2010, 17:05, Reply)

I feel your pain
Ever since I pointed out the Matt Bellamy thing in Wiggy the boys* are lining up to have me killed.

*May only be Darth Foxtrot
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Wed 12 May 2010, 17:10, Reply)

thanks :-)
he is a colossal dirt-road bandito

Darth Foxtrot that is
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 12 May 2010, 17:18, Reply)

BACK OFF KITZO

( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Wed 12 May 2010, 17:19, Reply)

*is genuinely a little scared*
O_O
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Wed 12 May 2010, 17:37, Reply)

not quite the drop of a hat
speaking as someone who's going through an uncontested divorce, it still takes a year or 2 and costs a few hundred quid, but relatively speaking, point taken.Point about signifying a strong union also, although personally when I had the commitment to a lifelong relationship I didn't feel I needed the marriage to formalize it, and at the point that things broke down irretrievably, that commitment was lost, and the marriage, was again, irrelevant.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Wed 12 May 2010, 16:55, Reply)

I know, with divorce being so prevalent it does seem that marriage is just a pointless formality nowadays
but I still like the idea of having a husband and being someone's wife rather than just 'boyfriend and girlfriend' forever, as that seems so casual and almost teenager-like. I understand why people think you shouldn't have to have a big ceremony to be committed to someone forever, but sometimes it's nice to be traditional.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Wed 12 May 2010, 16:58, Reply)

I would not dream of denying you the right to you ceremony
nor mocking you for it. My question, I suppose is more, is my commitment to be counted for less because it does not come with the same ceremony.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Wed 12 May 2010, 17:00, Reply)

not at all
except in a legal sense, which is unfortunate but that's the way it is

the law frowns on my close relationship with Mary Jane, but that doesn't stop it going on.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 12 May 2010, 17:02, Reply)

It's true,
it's a bit unfair that things like insurance go down if you're married, but unfortunately that's the way the law works in this country at the moment.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Wed 12 May 2010, 17:05, Reply)

insurance goes down?
I am woefully ignorant of the financial implications of being married.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 12 May 2010, 17:17, Reply)

I think your life expectancy goes up
dunno why, but heard it somewhere.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Wed 12 May 2010, 17:25, Reply)

yeah, apparently you drive more safely when married
until the marriage breaks down and then you strap the kids into the back, telling them you're going for a picnic when really you're going to take them deep-lake diving without the scuba gear.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Wed 12 May 2010, 17:38, Reply)

excellent
it looks more promising all the time!
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 12 May 2010, 17:39, Reply)