Sounds like going to court is your best option.
Although saying that, a mate of mine was in a similar position with his ex and he ended up going to court 4 times to try and get regular access to his son.

Each time he went it cost him over a grand and each time the court agreed that he should have every other weekend, alternate Christmas and New Years with his son and a week in the summer so he could take his lad on holiday.

She still refused him access unless it suited her. The problem was that courts won't take any action against a primary carer or lock up a childs mother for being a cunt.

As he tearfully pointed out to the woman chairing the family court pannel, every visit to court is a thousand quid he could be spending on his son.

I wish you every success with getting proper access agreed. Get some good advice and see what the professionals reckon you should be able to secure.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Mon 13 Sep 2010, 14:11, 1 reply, 15 years ago)

Thanks, old boy.
It's a nightmare from which I fear I shall never awake.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Mon 13 Sep 2010, 14:12, Reply)

One thing my mate was encouraged to do
And it helped massively when he was in court for the second time, was to keep a diary of events.

They were both told to keep one so that any problems could be discussed.

His read, 'Telephoned to enquire as to what time I could pick up my son, was told to fuck off'

Her diary was blank because 'I forgot to fill it in' (not a single entry over 4 months).
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Mon 13 Sep 2010, 14:16, Reply)

All my texts are backed up online

( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Mon 13 Sep 2010, 14:20, Reply)

Well I hope it goes well for you mate.
It can't be doing your daughter any good to have all this shit going on.

If it comes to it, I can lend you a Captain America fancy dress outfit and you can chain yourself to a bridge or something.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Mon 13 Sep 2010, 14:24, Reply)

I already have a Wonder Woman one, but thanks all the same.

( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Mon 13 Sep 2010, 14:27, Reply)

For a grand
I'll accidentally run her over on my bike.
(Himjim died a little more inside on, Mon 13 Sep 2010, 14:16, Reply)

If you had a 'fixy' I'd give you the job
(cos you could SPEED AWAY so quickly innit)
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Mon 13 Sep 2010, 14:19, Reply)

So long as there weren't any hills
or long straight roads. :/
(Himjim died a little more inside on, Mon 13 Sep 2010, 14:26, Reply)

I think that your best option
is to find a group of fathers in the same situation, and present your case all together. Not complain each time she breaks the agreement, but make sure that the law includes punishment for her when she does it.
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Mon 13 Sep 2010, 14:18, Reply)

The court will never punish the mother
Not if the child is living with her full time.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Mon 13 Sep 2010, 14:19, Reply)

Or dress up as a super hero.

( Davros' Granddad a voice of calm reason in a world of spastics., Mon 13 Sep 2010, 14:21, Reply)

Not your fault
but you are wildly underestimating the size of the legal hill.
( Kroney, Mon 13 Sep 2010, 14:25, Reply)

Clearly I am
It makes me feel very sad, though, that the law permits this and protects the person who's doing the harm.
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Mon 13 Sep 2010, 14:27, Reply)

as far as the court is concerned there is no harm being done
it's all in the best interests of the child
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 13 Sep 2010, 14:28, Reply)

Well
The court is wrong, clearly. The best interest of the child is to have both a mother and a father.
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Mon 13 Sep 2010, 14:30, Reply)

And the love of the father's family.

Particularly as in my case the mother's family are bunch of fucking peasants.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Mon 13 Sep 2010, 14:33, Reply)

in principle
but in some cases the parents won't be together, or the father won't have any interest, or will have interest but be a violent bastard. There has to be some kind of law to protect the child in those sorts of instances, but unfortunately the way it is now punishes people like Monty. Or rather, allows his ex to punish him.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 13 Sep 2010, 14:33, Reply)

Yes
But if it's the mother the one that is a bastard, then that doesn't count. She doesn't have to prove anything. She's the mother and that's all that counts.
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Mon 13 Sep 2010, 14:46, Reply)

that is fairly unusual though
on the whole, if the child is to live with one parent then most of the time they are better off with the mother, particularly at a very young age.

unfortunately I imagine when the law was written they didn't consider that some people might use it to exact their own petty revenge on a partner who they think has slighted them.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 13 Sep 2010, 14:48, Reply)

Ok, that's true
But the way your law works here, as I see it, is believing that the mother is good until the opposite is proved, and believing that the father could be a cunt, so just we better don't bother with him too much, just in case, eh?
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Mon 13 Sep 2010, 14:56, Reply)

that's pretty much it
in a lot of cases it works fine, because the mother is willing to give access to the father, either with or without court action.

but in some cases, like that of our unfortunate colleague, the mother is a psycho hosebeast
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 13 Sep 2010, 14:58, Reply)