Very kind
but sadly it's true. I look back and laugh at me worrying over how to be slimmer/look prettier etc, when five years later I have exactly the same worries and less basic material to work with
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Tue 12 Oct 2010, 0:02, 2 replies, latest was 15 years ago)

wait til you're as old as me
*glooms*
( rachelswipe with a fork, Tue 12 Oct 2010, 0:06, Reply)

See my reply to Barry.
Tis true of me and most blokes I'd imagine.

In the way that the average Doris won't go home with the Calvin Klien undercrackers model at the end of the night, most blokes won't be going home with the super model either.

Just be yourself. A bloke would rather be with someone who is happy than one who frets and worries about what they're eating and drinking all the time.

Give me bigger but happier over smaller and stressed EVERYTIME. I don't go out a neurosis, I want to be with the person I met.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Tue 12 Oct 2010, 0:07, Reply)

Slightly different situation here though
everyone is at a certain level of achievement/intelligence, which means that ironically it is far more looks focused than anywhere else I've been
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Tue 12 Oct 2010, 0:12, Reply)

just because they are bright blokes
does not make them less looks-obsessed. it just means they are a bit more eloquent about it!!!
( rachelswipe with a fork, Tue 12 Oct 2010, 0:14, Reply)

exactly
there's an understanding that there is no pretty/stupid or plain/intelligent divide here. That a pretty girl is just as intelligent as the plain. No incentive at all
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Tue 12 Oct 2010, 0:15, Reply)

also the men are
probably even more arrogant than anywhere else!
( rachelswipe with a fork, Tue 12 Oct 2010, 0:17, Reply)

Fuck off are we.
Now, get back to the kitchen. *Demands chips*
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Tue 12 Oct 2010, 0:26, Reply)

I think I've demonstrated the fact I'm fuck ugly and thick as fuck at the same time haven't I?
Either that, or I just like nice people.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Tue 12 Oct 2010, 0:17, Reply)

or that i am overly cynical
sadly every guy i meet these days just makes me 10 times worse!
( rachelswipe with a fork, Tue 12 Oct 2010, 0:18, Reply)

Well, my view on marriage is that of the cynic.
Oddly. I want to be a father one day, but the age I'm at means that, like women, my chances of becoming a father get more remote as each day passes.

My age puts me in a bracket of potential suitors, I'm 36 so at a real push I might be attractive to a 30 year old and someone knocking on the door of 40.

Limited amout of time to have off-spring. Given I wouldn't want to have kids outside of a stable relationship.

(God this is getting heavy as a conversation).
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Tue 12 Oct 2010, 0:21, Reply)

if you worry about it too much
you'll never sleep. in reality, millions of people in their mid-thirties meet, settle down, have kids every day of the week. you just don't piss around for 10 years first like you do in your 20's.

also have you borrowed one for a whole weekend? makes me feel like tying my own tubes in a double knot.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Tue 12 Oct 2010, 0:23, Reply)

I love my sisters kids to bits
And friends who've got kids all seem raelly happy.

Yes, they're hard work and being a occasional carer, I can spoil the kids with gifts and stuff that wouldn't be resonable on a full-time basis.

But I'd like a little me at some point.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Tue 12 Oct 2010, 0:25, Reply)

you're a dude, dude
you've got all the time in the world! i am sure millions of girls would want you.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Tue 12 Oct 2010, 0:26, Reply)

I agree I've got time
But my stock isn't rising, I'm getting older. Whilst I might still have my own teeth and a full head of hair (surprisingly not grey at all at the moment), time is running out.

Oddly, neither am I in a 'rush' to settle down again, following previous adventures in that field.

*Books appointment at the wank bank to freeze some*
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Tue 12 Oct 2010, 0:28, Reply)

time is not running out
don't be daft. there is bugger-all difference for a man between 36 and 39, for example. honestly!
( rachelswipe with a fork, Tue 12 Oct 2010, 0:29, Reply)

I agree there is no difference between a 36 and 39 year old man
But you have to understand that a 36 or 39 year old man is unlikely to meet a 28 year old with time on their side, to have a loving relationship with that means you feel comfortable starting a family and creating an environment that you know you'll be happy in.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Tue 12 Oct 2010, 0:32, Reply)

ah well
if you are one of *those* men who is only interested in someone much younger, then yes.

there are millions of them on things like mysinglefriend. they will be 35+, but only interested in women who are "22-28".
( rachelswipe with a fork, Tue 12 Oct 2010, 0:34, Reply)

Far from it Swipe
I'm certainly not one of those 'men' I'm someone who worries he'll never be a father.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Tue 12 Oct 2010, 0:39, Reply)

Well don't shut your options off
women can bear children well into their forties
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Tue 12 Oct 2010, 0:40, Reply)

How is the cold?
*Attempting to lighten the mood*
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Tue 12 Oct 2010, 0:42, Reply)

still quite bad
but I've drunk a lot so that'll probably help
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Tue 12 Oct 2010, 0:45, Reply)

Have you managed to access a kettle yet?

( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Tue 12 Oct 2010, 0:46, Reply)

it's still in the old wine cellar
that was underneath a friend's room
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Tue 12 Oct 2010, 0:54, Reply)

Achievement and intelligence has very little to do with it though
I'd rather spend time with someone who is spontanious and fun than someone who is overly studious.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Tue 12 Oct 2010, 0:16, Reply)