Or, you know, you could.
Because you're a grown-up. He could be sat there thinking "well she obviously doesn't give a shit", for all you know. Then, because you've signed up to a set of behaviours, called them rules rather than guidelines, that almost certainly less than 20% of the population believe to the extent you do, you miss out.

Or not. I just think it's daft to restrict yourself.
( Kroney, Mon 15 Nov 2010, 13:26, 2 replies, latest was 15 years ago)

I'm sorry
But I have to agree with you. I do think it's double standards, and on the first date (or all of them), the bill should be splitted.

As well, if he doesn't call/text in a day or two, and I'm interested on him, I'll text him myself, to see if he's ok and fancy meeting again. I'm the type of woman who's got a lot more male than female friends, and I've listen to too many complaining that they don't know what to do, and why women can't be straight forward.

I learnt my lesson when I was 14, and since them, if I want something, I go for it; if after a couple of weeks together he proves he's crap, then bye.
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Mon 15 Nov 2010, 13:31, Reply)

I should probably say
that I actually personally subscribe to a lot of rachelswipe's rules. But that's because I'm an old-fashioned kind of a man. Not many people these days are. I just think it's stupid to restrict yourself to a dying breed.

Particularly in London, where men are all metrosexual, self-centred wankers anyway.
( Kroney, Mon 15 Nov 2010, 13:35, Reply)

I think it's nice to receive a text after sex
and I'll consider that guy above others that don't; but I won't close all the doors to a nice guy just because he hasn't texted me in 4 days. Why should I? Why is the guy the one that has to start everything?
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Mon 15 Nov 2010, 13:37, Reply)

*Equality high five*

( Kroney, Mon 15 Nov 2010, 13:38, Reply)

i just think
if he is the kind of guy who won't text me after sex, he is not the kind of guy i really want to waste any more of my precious time on - i'm busy!!
( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 15 Nov 2010, 13:47, Reply)

i honestly think you are spouting shit!!!
i don't believe there is a man on the planet who could spend the night with a girl, have sex several times, kiss her goodbye etc etc, then go home and think "oh noes, she doesn't like me enough to text me". it's along the lines of "maybe he was too intimidated by the girl's looks/brains/money". there isn't a man on the planet who thinks "oh noes, she was way too good for me, i don't deserve her, better not call her then."

the truth is, if the guy wants a repeat performance, it won't even cross his mind that she might not feel the same way, because he'll be fending off a stiffy from re-living the highlights all the way home, and his blood will be diverted from his brain.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 15 Nov 2010, 13:34, Reply)

No it's probably
"well, she doesn't appear to be the kind of mentalist who texts relentlessly and immediately after sex, I can probably relax a bit."

Then you turn out to be exactly that kind of woman, because you're a woman, only you haven't even bothered to try and get in contact with him, either.

And you lose out again.
( Kroney, Mon 15 Nov 2010, 13:37, Reply)

you're simply wrong
he just couldn't be fucked to text/call once he'd had his dick sucked and got it warm and wet for a few hours.

this makes him a twat.

NEXT!
( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 15 Nov 2010, 13:46, Reply)

Neither could you
but somehow that's ok because it's you, rather than him. Hypocrisy.
( Kroney, Mon 15 Nov 2010, 13:47, Reply)

he's the guy
i'm the girl.

them's the breaks.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 15 Nov 2010, 13:50, Reply)

Ah, so this is all born
out of simple sexism. How unpleasant.
( Kroney, Mon 15 Nov 2010, 13:51, Reply)

Really?
Is that your experience? I'm sorry you haven't met anyone nicer. I've had sex with good friends, one of them once told me we should stop doing it because he felt I was falling in love with him, and didn't want to hurt me. We're still really good friends and he's invited to the wedding and everything.

There are some crappy guys out there who only think with their cock, but not all of them; the majority are nice people, as scare as you of anything new.
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Mon 15 Nov 2010, 13:40, Reply)

i've heard some pretty painful stories
but i suppose if it's only happened to me once in many years of dating, they can't ALL be that bad.

i still hope that one gets cock-rot and dies a slow lingering impotent death though!!!
( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 15 Nov 2010, 13:45, Reply)