without you to hoooooooold
I don't know, I'm still not convinced I've done the right thing; it just felt very very strange to behave like just friends, to sit next to him in the cinema and be painfully aware of each other trying not to touch...
Meh. Hows you this evening Jeffers? Enjoy your fish?
(berk, Wed 24 Nov 2010, 22:47, 2 replies, latest was 15 years ago)

well I'm sure it would feel strange after a long term relationship.
hopefully it will work out quickly though so you feel comfortable again.
(Poppet some assembly required., Wed 24 Nov 2010, 22:53, Reply)

Ugh, I hope so
To lose him as a friend as well would be just plain shit. Sorry I missed you on facebook today btw - how are you enjoying the Midlands?
(berk, Wed 24 Nov 2010, 22:55, Reply)

Evening Poppet.
Your quest to find snow on your travels looks like it'll happen!

Got used to the cold yet?
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Wed 24 Nov 2010, 22:56, Reply)

I wasn't sure if I was going to get the fish, or have a pie or some chicken.
In the end, I went for the fish. Why? Just for the halibut.

Only you know how you feel, but if your ex is upset about things, having checked up on you, it (sadly) doesn't bode well for the future. The first argument you have....
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Wed 24 Nov 2010, 22:54, Reply)

I'm normally too calm to argue
and so is he. I don't know. I think I've done the right thing, I just wish that I could feel more sure about it, commit to the damn decision I've made and stop wavering - not least because this must be getting fucking boring for you now.
(berk, Wed 24 Nov 2010, 22:57, Reply)

Sorry berk, but it makes a welcome change hearing about other peoples relationship problems
Rather than being the person with them.

Only you know if you've done the right thing, and there isn't a time limit on when/how you need to understand you've either made the right decision (or otherwise).

Give it a bit more time, if the ex is who you're supposed to be with, you'll end up with him - and happy - if not, you're still young and have all the time in the world to meet Mr Right, rather than Mr Right-Now.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Wed 24 Nov 2010, 23:00, Reply)

I suppose so
sage advice as ever... I guess partially at least I feel I ought to stick to the decision I've made because I don't want to mess him around a couple of months down the line by changing my mind and wanting to get back together when he'll be getting over me - hence why I want to feel like I've made the right decision now.
What's up with your love life, then?
(berk, Wed 24 Nov 2010, 23:11, Reply)

Nothing up with it berk
I was just harking back to the marriage problems of yesteryear.

I'm turning into the Professor Yaffle with all this relatonship advice (granted, if I knew anything about relationships, I'd be in one, but hey ho).
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Wed 24 Nov 2010, 23:12, Reply)

At least you managed to snag someone
long enough to get married - clearly you're not just paper bag & bin material! At a time when all of my friends are getting engaged and buying houses and whatnot, I am considering moving back in to a house share when I've had my own flat for 5 years or more, and have managed to lose my boyfriend of 18 months. I think probably your advice is more worth listening to than my own!
(berk, Wed 24 Nov 2010, 23:16, Reply)

And give it 36 months
One in three of your married/engaged couples will be single and thinking 'I was I was more like berk'

Just think that'll happen if the PhD application comes good? Think of all the new opportunities that will present.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Wed 24 Nov 2010, 23:24, Reply)

Unlikely, most of them have been together since college
it's only ever me that's had trouble finding and retaining a man! PhD would be awesomeness on a stick but I have to be realistic - the chances of me actually getting one are miniscule.
(berk, Wed 24 Nov 2010, 23:28, Reply)