You don't make your life easy do you?

( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Thu 2 Dec 2010, 13:59, 1 reply, 15 years ago)

In what way?

(berk, Thu 2 Dec 2010, 14:05, Reply)

In the way that if I were the significant other in your increasingly complicated relationship
I'd have huge doubts about your commitment, if you were texting Hot-Bloke with view to meeting him for a pint.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Thu 2 Dec 2010, 14:08, Reply)

I do not have a significant other
we split up. As Lab says, there were good reasons for this, but the ex wants me to come back and work on our problems. I am ambivalent about his capacity to change.
(berk, Thu 2 Dec 2010, 14:12, Reply)

No one ever changes to be exactly how you'd like them
There will always be something there that causes friction.
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Thu 2 Dec 2010, 14:17, Reply)

Hence the invention of 'lube'.

( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Thu 2 Dec 2010, 14:20, Reply)

plus even if he does change
he'll resent you for initiating it
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Thu 2 Dec 2010, 14:24, Reply)

Possibly
he was insistent he could and would change however.
(berk, Thu 2 Dec 2010, 14:28, Reply)

He wants you back
of course he would say that. But whether he changes or not, that change hasn't come from him, it's not an impetus he felt. It's something he's doing for a reason and that will become the basis for arguments later on 'I changed this, this and this for you, so you have to stay with me because I've made such an effort.' And if you found it so hard to dump him when you no longer wanted to go out with him,, imagine that with a guilt trup on top
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Thu 2 Dec 2010, 14:31, Reply)

^ this
he is who he is, which is someone who is not right for you, by your own admission.
Do you want someone who's had to change or do you want someone who is right?
Enjoy being single and picking fruit from the trees for a while.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Thu 2 Dec 2010, 14:35, Reply)