How are you today berk?

( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Sun 5 Dec 2010, 12:16, 1 reply, 15 years ago)

Shite
I had a crap night out and then a crap nights sleep. The last time I remember looking at the clock it was 6:30am and I woke up twice between then and 11am which was when I decided I probably should stop trying to get more sleep.
(berk, Sun 5 Dec 2010, 12:27, Reply)

Why was your night out crap?

( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Sun 5 Dec 2010, 12:37, Reply)

It's on the thread below
I came on here and snivelled about it but of course there was nobody about to sympathise at 2am!
(berk, Sun 5 Dec 2010, 12:38, Reply)

*sympathises*
just read it, sounds poo
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Sun 5 Dec 2010, 12:43, Reply)

It was, a big smelly one.

(berk, Sun 5 Dec 2010, 12:46, Reply)

I've just read it berk
That sounds shit.

What a grade A cock. Did you know he was going to be there or wa it just by chance that you found yourselves in the same place?

Also, for a bloke who wanted to get back with you, he seems to have got over you somewhat quickly.

You are well off out of it. Even if you feel shit now, you'll look back on this episode with a bit of wisdom in the future.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Sun 5 Dec 2010, 12:52, Reply)

No, we were out with a mutual group of friends
I knew he'd be there, I've seen him since the break up, I thought it'd be fine. I even thought, you know, he was looking good, he was funny and witty and nice...perhaps I *should* give it another go. I don't fucking think that now.
(berk, Sun 5 Dec 2010, 12:55, Reply)

it sucks
but at least your decision is made. Look at it from that point of view. It'll hurt marginally less
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Sun 5 Dec 2010, 12:57, Reply)

You've over looked
the fact that in addition to him being good looking, funny and witty, he is also a cock.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Sun 5 Dec 2010, 12:58, Reply)

Heh
arguably all men are cocks. However that is particularly and unusually cock-ish for him. Either he was doing it on purpose, in which case, yes he's a cock, or he wasn't, in which case he's insensitive and a cock. I didn't mind at first, but after two or so hours of him barely taking his hands off her I'd had enough.
(berk, Sun 5 Dec 2010, 13:02, Reply)

How is the ebay sale going?
As you are the all new, super slim berk, you'll find someone better than the ex, aren't you going to the bash in Bristol? You might bag yourself a Bristolian!
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Sun 5 Dec 2010, 13:07, Reply)

Bizarrely
the lady in question is from Bristol - and she runs a cake making business. And she's thinner and prettier than me. If she hadn't been so nice (and clueless about the whole ex-and-me thing) I could quite cheerfully have punched her in the face.

I would imagine that after a week of sleepless nights and frantic fear and preparation for this interview I will look sufficiently haggard at the bash as to be unapproachable...
(berk, Sun 5 Dec 2010, 13:10, Reply)

I'm struggling to think of comforting words here berk.
Maybe when she finds out who you were and why you might have been a bit off with her, she'll also think your ex is a cock?
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Sun 5 Dec 2010, 13:14, Reply)

Sorry, I'm just whining
I'll shut up. She might, but that would probably make her feel bad and it really isn't her fault. I've just had a text off the ex apologising for being insensitive, I'm not sure whether to ignore it or text back with vengeance in mind.
(berk, Sun 5 Dec 2010, 13:18, Reply)

Go back and tell him how you're feeling.
If nothing else, it'll make him feel uncomfortable.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Sun 5 Dec 2010, 13:23, Reply)

Ah, there's nothing quite like
a bit of icy cold indifference and passive aggressive guilt tripping, is there? I feel a bit better now.
(berk, Sun 5 Dec 2010, 13:26, Reply)

^ this. But try and be frank rather than overly passive-aggressive
Posting STD leaflets through his door, and other such revenge plots, are always very tempting but when this has all washed over you'll feel a lot better if you stayed on the (slightly lonely) mesa that is the moral high ground.
(LongJohnBaldry, Sun 5 Dec 2010, 13:26, Reply)

I wasn't that bad
I merely said that it was no longer any of my business what he gets up to.
(berk, Sun 5 Dec 2010, 13:31, Reply)

Oof.
I sympathise; I've had an ex do that to me before (pulled a stranger she'd met about twenty minutes previously less than twenty yards from my face). It's a horrible experience, but at least it sounds like you managed a more dignified response than I did (I yelled at her for being an insensitive whore, which of course made things very awkward for our mutual friends present at the time).

Chin up, you deserve better than this, and it will be your time after a while - it sounds like it's all piling up at the moment, having just broken up with the insensitive cock and with the impending interview. Just ride these out and things will surely start to pick up again.
(LongJohnBaldry, Sun 5 Dec 2010, 13:22, Reply)

It was a wholly crap experience
and entirely without merit, I have to admit. At least I didn't flip out and make a scene.
Cheers though - I'm sure things will be fine, I'm just feeling rather meh at the moment. If I survive til Christmas without going a bit pants-on-head then I shall be very very glad of 10 days off! Hows the work going?
(berk, Sun 5 Dec 2010, 13:29, Reply)

The only positive side is that it may provide some ammunition if you end up in another argument with him in the near future
Other than that it has nothing going for it. I'm impressed you got any sleep at all last night. Hang in there, and make sure you treat yourself to a decent rest over christmas! (Or, failing that, make sure you have plenty of clean pants to hand...)

Certainly going a little better at my end...I think I was a little out of it by the time I left last night but a few pints and real-time conversations with people did a lot of good. I've been pasting some pretty graphs into my slides this morning and I think I might almost have a talk worth showing tomorrow.
(LongJohnBaldry, Sun 5 Dec 2010, 13:34, Reply)