A feminist issue....
We hadn't been getting on at all well for several weeks. As a private joke to myself I had a selective ringtone on my nokia that made a pathetic kind of whining sound whenever she called. Yes, childish.

She found out, went mental and I promised to change it. Except I didn't. Not nice, but it certainly brought some deep issues to the surface. We were both at a friends party and for some reason she rang me. Cue whining ringtone, and ultimately, public recriminations.

When we got back home from the party she said it was a feminist issue (perhaps it is?). Then went absolutely berserk and stated that my ringtone was reinforcing the gender stereotype of the whining girlfriend. Then tried to punch me in the face.

She didn't even see the irony.
( TheFinch is getting to grips with the complex plane on, Sun 24 Oct 2010, 12:07, 8 replies)

There was no irony.
Because you are personally responsible for 40,000 years of male oppression, if you don't satisfy her she has every right to hit you as much as she likes.
(WANKERTRON you say "prick", I say "wanker", Sun 24 Oct 2010, 20:34, closed)

Ah yes.
I should have realised that at the time.
( TheFinch is getting to grips with the complex plane on, Sun 24 Oct 2010, 23:13, closed)

you pissed her off by being a dick and she tried to punch you
i see you attended the alanis morissette school of irony
(orestes is shitting in the 1940s, Sun 24 Oct 2010, 20:46, closed)

Really?
I thought whining about something that you also said reinforced a stereotype of someone whining was pretty ironic. You are a little prejudicial in my opinion, not to mention rude.

I would have pissed her off eventually no matter what I did and since you weren't there and didn't know her you are in a poor position to judge how much of a dick I was. In any case I hardly deserved a punch in the face, and it wasn't the first time either.
( TheFinch is getting to grips with the complex plane on, Sun 24 Oct 2010, 23:13, closed)

I think this raises a number of issues
the public humiliation of her- don't tell me that when the phone rang when you were with your mates you didn't make a show of it.
But saddest is the need to phone each other when you were in the same building, and the ringee could even hear the ringtone, you were that close.
Nothing to do with feminism, just lack of respect and laziness on both parts.
( TheSundaeLunch I'm a fucking shrub, alright?, Mon 25 Oct 2010, 0:16, closed)

At least they weren't texting each other in the same room
That really would take the piss
( Another_tragic_case wished he hadn't eaten all the cake, Mon 25 Oct 2010, 8:45, closed)

Well there was a basic lack of respect on both parts true.
but without a richer context you can't begin to appreciate the reasons. I've been honest with the situation as I saw it - my own faults included which I could have simply not mentioned. You've also assumed she or I wasn't still at the pub which I neglected to mention for brevity. Please feel free to assume any facts not mentioned are exactly as you say.
( TheFinch is getting to grips with the complex plane on, Mon 25 Oct 2010, 13:48, closed)

I swear it read as
You didn't even make her do the ironing.
(lemonadegame, Tue 26 Oct 2010, 3:07, closed)