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"Recently," Broken Arrow tells us, "The missus informed me that her brother was moving with us." What has your partner done that's convinced you the magic's gone? "Breathe" is not an answer.

(, Thu 21 Oct 2010, 12:33)
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Could it be tragic ?
Ex husband - I shoulda known the magic was never there in the first place, but I came out of a very bad relationship and went to him, so I was blinded (hur-hur.) It was definitely gone when I got assaulted a nightclub by someone I had never met before (who was then thrown out, the bouncers told me he was "always up to shit like that" - way to go for not barring him) and when I arrived home in a real state with torn clothes and a split lip, crying hysterically, husband (who had been working that night so not out with me) told me I must have been leading him on. Which was in no way true. Unless passing the time of day with someone who asks if you have a light in a club by telling them you're out with friends but married so just looking to have a nice night with your mates and then being set upon out of nowhere is leading someone on. FWIW a woman who suffered the same at a later date went to the police, got other victims to come forward, and the arsehole was prosecuted. I did also knee him smartly in the wedding vegetables in the process of getting away.
I might have understood or at least expected my husband's reaction if I had cheated on him or gave him cause to think I would do such a thing and then lie about it previously (although the split lip was something most people wouldn't be deliberately getting from a paramour if they were fucking around with someone, I would wager), but at that point in our relationship I hadn't even looked at anyone else, let alone carted on with anyone. He had, however, so I guess it was a guilty conscience talking.

Bf who followed ex husband - I knew the magic was gone when he started leaving his razors upside down on the side of my bathroom sink where he knew I would be putting my hands when looking for my on toiletries. For someone who is virtually blind, this is a bit of an issue, as one feels one's way around for the most part. I got cut more than once, and he kept doing it despite my explanations as to why this was not something I wanted to be happening in my own house (he didn't live there even, just treated it like a hotel). He also deliberately guided me into stuff like waste bins and lampposts, and when I asked him if he could be a touch more careful, he said it wasn't his responsibility to look after me. True enough - but why say "Don't use your guide cane - just take my arm" when we went out then ? As it kept happening (I know not everyone is a good guide, and accidents do happen, so I gave him the benefit of the doubt more than a few times) I finally said, "You're doing this on purpose, aren't you ?" He replied that yes he was. Just that - "Yes, I am." No explanations as to why (not that any would have mattered).
I can still hardly believe someone would be so actively nasty in such a sly way, but there it is. We didn't last much longer.

I got a good'un now. Three years and counting. Don't give up, gentle reader - the good ones are out there somewhere, honest, and magic CAN last.
(, Wed 27 Oct 2010, 11:32, 7 replies)
First story is about control I guess, so he said this because he didn't like you going out. Over paranoid about you cheating on him....quite pathetic really. I love it when Mrs. Arrow goes out (she rarely does) as long as she is safe and I know how she is getting home and who she is with.

As for the 2nd incident.....I just find this unbelievable. Definitely someone who enjoyed picking on the vulnerable. I couldn't imagine what it would be like to be blind or partially sighted but it must take a lot of time to trust people and be confident, so glad you seem to have that back through current BF.......It's not Lionel Richie is it??
(, Wed 27 Oct 2010, 11:53, closed)
Not Lionel, but a wonderful bloke who is also blind. Trusting each other is not a problem, as he's aware of how it is to get fucked over by a partner who takes advantage of you because you can't see shit.
When someone has to read your mail for you, for example, they can mess with you in all sorts of ways. Like, ID theft to set up accounts in your name that they then abuse (recently found out Razor boy did this) and forgery, like signing you up to loans you didn't even know about (ex husband did this.) so yeah, even trusting people for something that mostly everyone sighted takes for granted can be hard. Trusting them not to fuck you up in other ways when previously you've suffered that is often extra hard.
We do all our financial stuff and correspondance by email now. All hail the talking computer. ;)
(, Wed 27 Oct 2010, 18:25, closed)
Fuck sake!
I cant believe people do this.

I know there are cunts in the world but fuck me, that makes me want to stab people.

*pulls faces at you while you read this*
(, Wed 27 Oct 2010, 19:42, closed)
Like the posts below say
What bottom feeders could do this?? If the forgery thing is still being dealt with, I would definately get the police involved, I doubt they would have any sympathy for the scum bags. You have inspired me to go and see an old friend that I used to hang around with as a kid. He was partially deaf and had a rare disease where he always knew at some point he would go blind,this has since happened, he is with a girl that's deaf so their relationship appears to work well, he lives just around the corner from me, so I will go and check on him and make sure he is in control of things...E-mail definately sounds like the way forward!
(, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 11:00, closed)
what an....
absolute c*nt!
(, Wed 27 Oct 2010, 12:31, closed)
Been singing Special Brew all day
and seeing your name, now can't stop singing it. Good on ya fella!
(, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 1:03, closed)
we didn't last MUCH longer?????`
Am I the only one who finds this bit wrong? You should have called him a cunt there and then, got someone to give him a good kicking, led him around blindfolded on all fours in a room of broken glass and razors stuck in soap bars and then through the town making sure he smashed his head into every sharp thing all the way there and back and then done it all again. Then you should have have told him to be more careful and that it wasn't your responsibility to look after him, then tied him to a lampost near a nonce hotspot and smeared his arse with vasline and sand. What a cunt!
(, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 1:02, closed)

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