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"Recently," Broken Arrow tells us, "The missus informed me that her brother was moving with us." What has your partner done that's convinced you the magic's gone? "Breathe" is not an answer.

(, Thu 21 Oct 2010, 12:33)
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Now at the moment my autosig on B3ta is "is waiting for the right QOTW to fit life..."
Well right now, maybe just maybe I've found it. Those of you who know me, know the full story.

For those of you who don't, and can be bothered, read this QOTW answer of mine from a few years back

So scroll forward to now. Over the last three and a bit years since that post, we got married (great stuff) found out straight away that she was expecting (great stuff) and have now got the most fantastic Son a man could wish for. The boy is my life. He is my double, he is so smart and funny and loving that there is a tear on my cheek as I sit here at work and write this. As someone who was not really a family man I am a complete convert.

Unfortunately about 5 weeks before he was born I found out my darling wife had over £22k of debt which I didn’t know about, using maiden name, old addresses, friends and family addresses etc. So yeah that was a bit of a kicker. I’d built myself back up from nothing to have myself kicked back down again. I stayed, for my Son. Was the right decision at the time.

That December she was shagging her ex boyfriend. She only stopped when I caught her. Again, like a mug, I stayed. He then got sent down because, as a Ket dealer, he’d killed someone with it. I stayed with real promises to try and make it work. I didn’t want my son to grow up without both parents there. Simpllistic I know.

So in april this year, on a rare occasion of nocturnal shenanigans, she became pregnant again. At which point she started with the debts again (last lot still fucking us over on a monthly basis) and got back in touch with aforementioned bloke.

So I’ve walked. I lived in a caravan for a month. I now have a house and (thanks to some TRUE friends) some stuff to put in the house. I now have a completely different outlook on life and am resigned to the fact that all I have now is my Boy and his little bro and sis. I’m sure there will be another Mrs Og (well, one in place already if it pans out) but Thanks to being fucked over properly twice now I’m starting again, again.

When I look back, I married her for the wrong reasons, and I have learnt from it. I stayed for what I thought were the right reasons, and although I wouldn't do it again I stand by my decisions there.

There are so many gory details which tell me that being without her is the right thing to do. Yes I have left my wife while she's pregnant, but to do that I hope those that know me know exactly how much at the end of my tether I was...
Sorry for lack of Lolz, but hey, that’s life.

Onwards and upwards!
(, Wed 27 Oct 2010, 13:40, 10 replies)
chin up
and all the best with it
(, Wed 27 Oct 2010, 13:58, closed)
wait I'm confused
the one that you're talking about in this post, is she the one you were going to marry in the last post?

'cause if so, you really know how to pick 'em
(, Wed 27 Oct 2010, 14:03, closed)
Different ones
I got two fuckwits back to back
(, Wed 27 Oct 2010, 15:51, closed)
feck that's bad luck
better luck next time! Maybe take things more slowly?
(, Wed 27 Oct 2010, 16:10, closed)
Two back to back
I've done that too. Not got a third one lined up yet, give me time though...
(, Wed 27 Oct 2010, 19:14, closed)
Blinking flip.
Good luck with it all.
(, Wed 27 Oct 2010, 14:15, closed)
Your use of capitals leads me to think
you are either:
James Frey
Brian Blessed
(, Wed 27 Oct 2010, 14:47, closed)
Bloody hell, Ogwen!
It's tough having to start all over again but sounds like that was your only choice.

Good luck.
(, Wed 27 Oct 2010, 15:13, closed)
good idea to have lined up MrsOg III? Hope everything works out for you dude!
(, Wed 27 Oct 2010, 15:42, closed)
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