I can never work out which is best
But I'm currently in my seventh month of voluntary monogamy and am in the first relationship for absolutely ages where I don't feel trapped, possibly because he's even more wary than me. Sometimes I'm panicking over the lack of spoken emotions; other times I'm just gazing at him thinking "I adore him so much and if I don't jump on him right now it's very possible I might die from desire". That seems to average out into something thing vaguely balance-y...
( crackhouseceilidhband Fuck off back to Mumsnet, Thu 25 Sep 2008, 17:22, 1 reply)

you probably already know this
in fact from what you (or someone) said above about enjoying the present you do know it

don't over analyse (hehe anal)

my other half and I have a great, loving relationship, not as much action as I would like, but I've come to terms with that.

the weird thing is though, that we don't argue, we'll have these weird periods, and then have a lengthy and tense discussion via email while we are at work. sort things out, agree some stuff, and by the end of the day everything will be awesome.

it's fucking weird, but it works.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Thu 25 Sep 2008, 17:52, closed)

yup
my blokey and i are like that.
we have a long distance thing going. he lives in holland, i'm in the uk. we see each other for a week once a month and it's like a new relationship every time.
we've been together nearly 2 years now, so it's working out ok.
we do that whole weird period sorted out with an email thing too.
if ever we move in together, though, it will turn into scenario 1.
( gypsy turnips, Sat 27 Sep 2008, 16:23, closed)