short and sweet
I'd like to meet someone who wants to be with me as much as I want to be with them, you must be fucking out there somewhere??!



Edit: Perhaps I should re-word it a bit. (it'll still look shite but it reads better in my head)

Relationships that I seem to get into are always one sided, I admit I'm probably quite hard work myself but so have some of them too.

It's always them not as into me or the other way round, I got called 'shallow' yesterday (by a female friend) which I suppose I am quite but I fail to see what's wrong in that, you've got to fancy the person haven't you?
I've tried dating girls that I get on with like a house on fire but none of them do it for me in the looks department yet when I go out with the lookers my lifestyle doesn't do it for them, they already know what it is so why do they feel like they have to try and change me all the time?

It can't be just me surely? Maybe it is? Who knows?

To be honest, if it wasn't for the gay part of being gay, I'd be gay, I think! Or maybe they're even worse??

None of the above is too much of a problem really, I've got four lovely kids, a decent lifestyle and don't really want for much apart from someone to share the rest of my life with.

Too much to ask? Quite possibly.
(Kip, Fri 15 Oct 2010, 18:16, 9 replies)

Hmm...
I think you may need to be more specific. For example, if you really didn't want to be with someone, and they really didn't want to be with you, that'd meet your criteria - and yet would, I suspect, be somewhat unpleasant and unfulfilling. Even assuming it was someone with whom you wanted to be, and who wanted to be with you, the notion that they're currently 'fucking out there somewhere' would mean you get sloppy second, at best.

I suggest 'I would like to meet someone whose company I would genuinely enjoy, and who would reciprocally enjoy mine. I hope you're out there somewhere, remaining chaste.'
( Happy Phantom has been to Hastings, Brighton, and Eastbourne too, Fri 15 Oct 2010, 18:23, closed)

yeah yeah, you've got it right.

(Kip, Fri 15 Oct 2010, 19:04, closed)

And remember: you can tell they're serious about being chaste if they wear a purity ring.

( The Mock TurtIe ™ --- Thinks you are a cunt, on, Fri 15 Oct 2010, 19:21, closed)

The above-mentioned semantics aside.
I would say be true to yourself and work towards the type of life you want.
You can take me as an example, if you care: I recently met a great girl and fell in love -- I just wish I had bothered to change some things in my life while I was single.
Another way of putting it: take care of what you have now and work towards what you want, and forget what you cannot change. Sadly I may not be able to follow my own advice but the happiest people I know made the best of what they had and worked hard for what they wanted.
(Me, I'm not... in any way intoxicated, Fri 15 Oct 2010, 18:31, closed)

the comment: take care of what you have now and work towards what you want, and forget what you cannot change.
is possibly the best quote I've ever read on here, is it yours/

Well written mate and will take on board.
(Kip, Sat 16 Oct 2010, 21:08, closed)

Sorry, missed the question.
As long as you can't google it the quote must be original to me -- my memory is bad.
I'm a little younger than you so I hope it isn't patronising, and I mean what I say about not being able to take my oan advice.
(Me, I'm not... in any way intoxicated, Wed 20 Oct 2010, 18:55, closed)

In my experience
they probably are both out there, and fucking.
(apeloverage committed the vile act of onanism on, Fri 15 Oct 2010, 18:37, closed)

^this

( girlinthehole, Fri 15 Oct 2010, 18:38, closed)

Are gays worse?
We're pretty much the same.
(BearWithLittleBrain, Sat 16 Oct 2010, 15:57, closed)

bummer.
I always hoped it'd be along the lines of, 'what we doing tonight?' 'going out, getting pissed and then home for a shag, suit you?'
(Kip, Sat 16 Oct 2010, 16:20, closed)

So you've got 4 kids
you're admittedly picky about looks and you want someone who'll go out dancing and ask no emotional committment. That's some haystack you're looking through
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Sat 16 Oct 2010, 17:20, closed)

kids are 12 and 14 so not too demanding.
go out dancing? - yeah if the opportunity arises, but I'm happy with a DVD and a pizza tbh.

Emotional commitment? - that's just what I want, but with someone who wants to commit to me as much as I do them.

To the point, I'm fed up of being either pushed around or being used.

Might delete this thread tomorrow cause it's turning into a proper self pity post!
(Kip, Sat 16 Oct 2010, 20:27, closed)