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Ummm?
Having your partner thinking about you in a sexual context is comparable to rape?

OK. I think this conversation just took a turn for the twilight zone.
(I helped save b3ta! Dr. Shambolic je suis charlie, Mon 10 Dec 2007, 13:08, archived)
yeah, mentally it is.
I mean, I can hardly consent to it if I'm not even there, can I?
(I helped save b3ta! Moon Girl Technologies horrendous beanbag, Mon 10 Dec 2007, 13:09, archived)
Quick someone call the thought police.

(PsychoChomp, Mon 10 Dec 2007, 13:11, archived)
no, come off it.
you can't stop people having fantasies about stabbing you to death either, but you wouldn't want to know about it.
(I helped save b3ta! Moon Girl Technologies horrendous beanbag, Mon 10 Dec 2007, 13:14, archived)
but being stabbed is unpleasant
sex isn't.
(PsychoChomp, Mon 10 Dec 2007, 13:16, archived)
it is if it's rape.

(I helped save b3ta! Moon Girl Technologies horrendous beanbag, Mon 10 Dec 2007, 13:18, archived)
CIRCULAR ARGUMENT.
What if it's NOT rape?

How can a thought be rape? Really? How?
(I helped save b3ta! Bud Muhnquai Update your profile or fuck off, Mon 10 Dec 2007, 13:20, archived)
by being non consensual.
I don't consent to being thought about in a sexy way.
(I helped save b3ta! Moon Girl Technologies horrendous beanbag, Mon 10 Dec 2007, 13:21, archived)
You can't consent to a thought process in someone else's mind.
You can't censor someone else's thoughts.

Sorry to push this one, but if 'God' gave us freewill, he essentially signed a waiver on your behalf.
(I helped save b3ta! Bud Muhnquai Update your profile or fuck off, Mon 10 Dec 2007, 13:23, archived)
Well, quite.
That's exactly why it would make me feel used, and actually really quite powerless.
(I helped save b3ta! Moon Girl Technologies horrendous beanbag, Mon 10 Dec 2007, 13:25, archived)
You're actually mental.
I'd suggest removing all five of your senses, and becoming a PVS mong.
(I helped save b3ta! Bud Muhnquai Update your profile or fuck off, Mon 10 Dec 2007, 13:28, archived)
And how many chaps have you ever thought about in a sexy way?
Seriously, it's human nature, you can't help urges. With your rules, pretty much everyone would end up in prison.

I can sort of understand what you mean, objectification and all that (you great big feminist), but there's nothing that can stop it. It's just part of life.
(I helped save b3ta! SugarSpunSister Yeah, whatever, Mon 10 Dec 2007, 13:24, archived)
I'm not actually advocating putting people in prison for thinking about sex.
Although in answer to your question: none.
(I helped save b3ta! Moon Girl Technologies horrendous beanbag, Mon 10 Dec 2007, 13:26, archived)
It's fair enough if sex just doesn't do it for you
but you can't expect sexytime daydreams not to happen. It just....doesn't work like that.

And I know you're not advocating imprisonment, that was my extreme example :)
(I helped save b3ta! SugarSpunSister Yeah, whatever, Mon 10 Dec 2007, 13:29, archived)
no it just wouldn't make me feel very good
if someone told me about it.
(I helped save b3ta! Moon Girl Technologies horrendous beanbag, Mon 10 Dec 2007, 13:34, archived)
Not all sex is rape.

(PsychoChomp, Mon 10 Dec 2007, 13:22, archived)
It is if you're frigid.

(I helped save b3ta! Bud Muhnquai Update your profile or fuck off, Mon 10 Dec 2007, 13:25, archived)
He's not imagining raping you
he's imagining you consenting and enjoying it. If you got a text saying "hi hun been thinking about raping u, got me hot, xx" or something, I'd see your point.

If he was enjoying daydreaming about going to the park with you for a lovely walk, would you object on the grounds that you don't like going to the park?
(I helped save b3ta! Flapjack I spay a little mare for you, Mon 10 Dec 2007, 13:25, archived)
Hmm yeah
actually a good point. Although if he was imagining me doing something I really hated, however innocent, I'd kind of wonder why he was imagining me being like somebody else.
It's just the idea of being thought of as a sexual thing, to me, it's horrid.
(I helped save b3ta! Moon Girl Technologies horrendous beanbag, Mon 10 Dec 2007, 13:30, archived)
I promise I'll do my best not to
but you can have sex without treating someone like an object, despite what internet links might have you believe.
(I helped save b3ta! Flapjack I spay a little mare for you, Mon 10 Dec 2007, 13:35, archived)
OK. I'm imagining slashing my colleague's face off with a rusty meathook.
Is that in any way comparable with, say, slashing his face off with a rusty meathook?
(I helped save b3ta! Dr. Shambolic je suis charlie, Mon 10 Dec 2007, 13:13, archived)
No of course it isn't, you point-missing tit.
If you told him about it I shouldn't think he'd be very happy though.
(I helped save b3ta! Moon Girl Technologies horrendous beanbag, Mon 10 Dec 2007, 13:16, archived)
You wouldn't text him to tell him about it (if you liked him anyway, which, if you're imagining that, you probably don't. Er.)
The difference is trust and knowing someone well enough to know they'll appreciate it, like Webbie and her gentleman friend obviously have.
(I helped save b3ta! Newington, Mon 10 Dec 2007, 13:19, archived)
BOLLOCKS.

(I helped save b3ta! Bud Muhnquai Update your profile or fuck off, Mon 10 Dec 2007, 13:17, archived)
There you go again.
I really wonder why you bother.
(I helped save b3ta! Moon Girl Technologies horrendous beanbag, Mon 10 Dec 2007, 13:18, archived)