Considering my partner is infertile, I think the chances of us having kids is pretty slim.
And neither of us have ever had the desire to reproduce anyway. I can barely look after myself and we've agreed that if we ever reach a point in our relationship where we're so bored that we think having a child might be the only way to salvage what's left, we should just split up.
(, Thu 6 Apr 2017, 15:42, Share, Reply)
it's not about boredom
the ideal, is that you meet someone, and your combined experiences of the world are usefull to raise, or at least start, the next generation off with a good idea of how to function and how to improve.
it's rather selfish to think that this life is just for you and what you can get out of it, and not to think "if people where a bit more X the world would be a better place" and then work really hard (and parenting is hardwork) to instill those values in someone.
now, as i said thats the ideal, and humans aren't perfect so people end up having them for all sorts of terrible reasons and imparting alsorts of horrible things... which is why it's a responsibility of the kind, the nice, and the wise to have children, to impact the damage.
now obviously if your partner is infertile you have had that stripped away from you, but to then right-off the whole thing as a product of boredom, honestly, is churlish.
(, Thu 6 Apr 2017, 15:47, Share, Reply)
I've felt this way ever since being introduced to the concept of reproduction.
It wasn't exactly 'stripped away' from me. If anything, it was an enormous relief to discover my partner was infertile (she had known for some time before we met) and that she shared my opinions on reproduction.
Are you really claiming that choosing to not reproduce is selfish? It's not up to the next generation to fix our wrongs. If that was the case, we'd never get anything done, because the next generation would just rely on the next.
Spend less energy on making kids and more energy on fixing the world if that's really your end game.
(, Thu 6 Apr 2017, 16:02, Share, Reply)
ive got a couple of ankle-biters
I say to people thinking about them: "if you really want them, have them. But if you not sure then don't because they're a fuckton of work. But once you've bought the ticket then take the ride and try and enjoy it"
I'm a scientist at heart, so I enjoy testing out behavioural theory on them and treating the whole thing as a long running experiment, which it is in a way.
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cumquat may will not be commenting further on the allegations, Fri 7 Apr 2017, 1:32,
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It's selfish not to have children and fill their minds with your own opinions?
Righto.
(, Thu 6 Apr 2017, 17:21, Share, Reply)
I've taught mine to hate the white man
and how to escape if you're confronted by a velociraptor (hint: They hunt in pairs)
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cumquat may will not be commenting further on the allegations, Fri 7 Apr 2017, 1:25,
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I'm not trying to convince you
taht not having a kid is something you should regret. But.
I had a fulfilling life before we had a kid. Now my son is the most amazing, interesting, puzzling, weird, cute little human and keeps me busy, entertained, wondering, happy and sometimes exasperated and sleepless.
Having a kid has meant all other things in life went on the back-burner: reading, skating, meeting friends, watching fantastic fiction. Because the responsibility to take care of my son takes precedence over and leaves little time for all the other things. But hey: its also a lot more interesting and rewarding then the other things.
Just saying. Someone should cheer for team parent in this thread.
I wish i had known it was this much fun 10 years ago, we might have had time to try for another one.
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"Having a kid has meant all other things in life went on the back-burner: reading, skating, meeting friends, watching fantastic fiction."
This explains why my heart sinks when good friends announce they are having a kid.
They don't always go from interesting friend to dull acquaintance...
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monkeon schmonkeon, Thu 6 Apr 2017, 20:11,
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*stage whisper* HE WAS BEING SARCASTIC
or at least I hope to god he was
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Tab Hunter Make this useless process end and so, begin again, Thu 6 Apr 2017, 16:49,
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