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Freddie Woo sends us a tale of woe which ends: "I could live with being cheated on. What really got me that there was clearly a third person holding the camera, and the arse pummeling up and down sometimes had a tattoo, sometimes it didn't. I moved out that day." Tell us about how a relationship's come crashing down around you.

(, Thu 12 Sep 2013, 13:18)
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OK now... as the time is pertinent.
Got a msg outta the blue from a very lovely Kiwi lady I used to hang out with go places. Always fancied the arse off her; but collided relationships, I was or she was in ensured we never took any further.

That was circa 1995, the Kiwi met someone here in the UK and went back to sheep-land and finally married someone, who ended up cheating on her and the resultant divorce followed, queue lots of non starters for her ongoing.

Me, 1st marriage was cheated on, divorce. 2 years, 5 year legal battle and 40k in legal costs each.
Second marriage, 7 years and 9 together.

Last 2 - 3 years were hell with her son (my stepson) and her work / life, rowing every night, constant unwillingness to partake in each others family interests or me wanting to take time away with her alone.
The life was so toxic, I needed an out.
Massive depression on my part, prozac and counselling and such like, I learned a lot over those 2 -3 years.
Had resultant stomach issues, confined to work from home with no travel for work. I felt like I was dying.
Drinking too much... just needed to block the day to day out.

Mainly, it's really hard to bring up some other guy's kid from the age of 6 to 16.
I guess I am just not cut out for that, gave it what I thought was serious try, I failed as I am leaving.

So I piss off to Paris to meet with the Kiwi, for me... way too much good food / wine over several days.
Finally found myself alive again, talked to a lot of interesting people in cafes and bars.
We also hooked up with an Mercan workmate of mine for a night out, the coup de gras were 'Long Island Iced Teas' (French style).

So I asked her 'Would you like to take this ongoing', she answered 'Yis' (as they do).

She invites me back to Geneva after... hung out with her and relatives on lake Garda, had the best time.
Speaking daily on Skype, arsebook... et al, ongoing.
Meeting again in October in Thailand... looking to move to NZ to be with her, failing that shes coming back to the UK.

Ex Wife to be is ok, we both want to stay mates outta this, I will still support my stepson outta choice not commitment.

So possibly the best breakup ever.

We are all in a good place, all

Much love.
(, Fri 13 Sep 2013, 15:50, 25 replies)
If you really said 'Would you like to take this ongoing' then you are lucky she didn't throw you in the Seine
(, Fri 13 Sep 2013, 16:17, closed)
Understand how hard it is to ask a long term mate for a relationship / life ongoing.
I desired this women for 1/4 of my life.
(, Fri 13 Sep 2013, 17:02, closed)
also... didn't mention what 'this' is for legal reasons.

(, Fri 13 Sep 2013, 18:00, closed)
She was underage?

(, Sat 14 Sep 2013, 11:19, closed)
She was a sheep?

(, Sun 15 Sep 2013, 4:16, closed)
I like this
Staying mates is good, makes life so much easier. All the best to you buddy :)

(, Fri 13 Sep 2013, 16:26, closed)
Thank you

(, Fri 13 Sep 2013, 17:04, closed)
Good luck, mate.
(, Fri 13 Sep 2013, 16:51, closed)

(, Fri 13 Sep 2013, 17:04, closed)
Can you even into words?

(, Fri 13 Sep 2013, 17:28, closed)
In engrish?

(, Fri 13 Sep 2013, 17:55, closed)
Are you illiterate or autism?

(, Fri 13 Sep 2013, 18:06, closed)
Likely both...
enjoy your sad existence, I am sure you will find happiness in your mirror of self gratification. You narcissistic pedant. Much love, I am happy...

That, you will never get.

enjoy your mother, many have and will.
(, Fri 13 Sep 2013, 18:31, closed)
My translation tool outputs this as 'IGNORING YOU NOW'

(, Fri 13 Sep 2013, 19:12, closed)
and who cares about you?

(, Fri 13 Sep 2013, 19:17, closed)
I'm nothing but a pack of, oh wait

(, Fri 13 Sep 2013, 19:34, closed)
That's the shittest haiku I've ever read.

(, Fri 13 Sep 2013, 19:49, closed)

(, Sat 14 Sep 2013, 1:29, closed)

(, Sat 14 Sep 2013, 14:28, closed)
Google Translate is still a bit shit then.

(, Fri 13 Sep 2013, 18:49, closed)
for you. Nice one.
(, Fri 13 Sep 2013, 19:23, closed)
Thank you

(, Fri 13 Sep 2013, 19:25, closed)
Stupid hat.

(, Fri 13 Sep 2013, 19:27, closed)
Wait, are you saying it's Ding?
(, Sun 15 Sep 2013, 4:17, closed)
Glad you found someone
that you can be happy with
(, Tue 17 Sep 2013, 16:26, closed)

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