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Thebigfella tugs our coat and says: Are you a LibDem minister, a cheating partner, or maybe you have an annoying friend you can't be bothered with? Tell us of promises you've broken, or if you've been on the receiving end.

(, Thu 2 Dec 2010, 12:40)
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Not a Funny One For my First Post
So be warned..

My mum marrying my Dad because she was 3 months pregnant set us up for a good start. My family are Jehovah's Witnesses (except my Aunts and Uncles and me, we have our own minds) To show how happy a family life it was, my older sister admitted to Dad that our brother had been abusing her for years. My younger sister too admitted it had been happening to her. I stayed quiet when I realised what they got in return for coming forward - shunned for opening their mouths and weeks of Dad mourning the fact that something so shameful could happen in our family. No police involved, nothing, it was just never mentioned again. My older sis went on to develop a problem with drink and drugs which all stemmed back to this lack of support (funnily enough mum and dad were quick enough to shop her when they found herbs in her bedroom) and eventually had an accident after a night out on the hard stuff, killing her. Even as my Dad told us I could see the lack of sympathy on his face, as if to say "served her right". She had only just turned 18.

I moved out of home when I reached 18 and didn't want to be one of 'them' - after that Dad started treating me like I wasn't welcome in the home anymore - literally. He started locking the front door on me when I went out. Around the time of me getting the f*ck out of there Mum took me to one side and said "promise me if you ever get in trouble, come home. It doesn't matter what's happened, I promise your room will be here if you need it".

Fast forward 7 years, I've had nothing to do with them apart from the odd text, letter from my nan etc. Their choice, not mine. I've done well, working, got car. I'm working as live-in nanny to four children and the parents relationship is in tatters. One night he hits me in front of the kids so I pack a bag and go to a friends. Shit, I think, I need somewhere to live. My mum made that promise...I can go there just for a couple of weeks until I sort myself. So I phoned her, reminded her and said I really needed to take the offer. I'll have a word with your Dad, she says. "No" he says matter of factly, "I don't think it would be a good idea" - all stemming back to the fact that I'm not one of them. "Ok," I say, "I'll sort something" and hang up. And cry. I broke my heart crying for days. How can a mother do that, let someone else with a history of not giving a shit about others just leave her own daughter homeless? Genuinely homeless. She didn't even step in. My friend couldn't put me up for long so off to a shitty flatshare with a lad I didn't know it was for me until I got the f*ck out of there too.

End of the story (Jesus this is getting long), I'm now happily with my man, I'm 13 weeks gone (mum couldn't even bring herself to congratulate me despite two miscarriages) and she'll never meet her grandchild. Don't even ask whether my Dad will. I'm ashamed to admit were related.

Religion sucks and if you ever meet one of these people, run. Run away very fast. Especially if they have my surname.
(, Tue 7 Dec 2010, 13:18, 13 replies)
If we ever needed more proof that religions suck
Here's a guy who was knobbing his girlfriend before marriage, then has the barefaced cheek to take the pious moral high-ground with his kids.

Actually, it's no real surprise. All fundies are hypocrites; this one clearly liked dominating helpless children too.

What a waste of oxygen. I'm glad you escaped; he's probably got other kids in the basement.
(, Tue 7 Dec 2010, 13:58, closed)
They *are* all hypocrites.
Their moral compass is determined by the idea that they can ask God for forgiveness, and receive it no matter how terrible they may have been.
I don't believe you get forgiven just because you ask. I think you need to be able to make a pretty strong account of your actions, while you're alive. My moral compass is determined by the idea that I don't want to look like a dick in front of people. God's going to have to ask for my forgiveness, when the time comes. I'm not the one that goes around being a dick to people.
(, Wed 8 Dec 2010, 0:04, closed)
I like the thought that if there is a God
he spends all his time apologising.
(, Wed 8 Dec 2010, 8:58, closed)
You have my deepest sympathy

(, Tue 7 Dec 2010, 14:31, closed)
Christ on a bike!! That's fucking cold.
I have rellies that are witnesses on my wife's side..they are alright, no crosses on the walls or pics of jesus etc. that you might expect in their house.. and they have had 'Back to the Future' nights..and Wii nights. They never bring up what they believe either..which is nice..otherwise I would tell them to fuck their stupid cult up their cunts..and don't get me started on the 'no blood' shit.. rather letting their own kids bleed to death..that is EPICALLY FUCKED UP.

Good luck to you darlin, you are soooooooooooo much better off without them.
(, Tue 7 Dec 2010, 14:46, closed)

The funny thing is, if Jesus wasn't a fictional character, he would call up on your parents and kick their asses.
(, Tue 7 Dec 2010, 14:50, closed)
I knew a family of Witnesses...
...who were very much like this, baffled me.

I also had the safety net of 'going back home' taken away a few years back when I was incredibly low. It's changed my relationship with my parents completely, we get on, we're like friends, but it'll never be the same again, it's been up to me to just get over it.

I'm much stronger now and I hope you will be too :)
(, Tue 7 Dec 2010, 15:56, closed)
You could have probably gone to your parent's friends.
As "good Christians" they would possibly have helped you.
Does anyone know who it is making money from the movement, the cult leader as it were? My mother is one and as far as I can gather they're more like masons than scientologists, but if anyone knows any different please let me know so I can dig up as much shit on them as I can.
(, Tue 7 Dec 2010, 17:35, closed)
Charles Taze Russell
He started the whole movement, look up some of his indiscretions and you'll have all the ammunition you need. When confronted with this, Witnesses will say such things never happened as the Watchtower Society rewrites its' history whenever it suits them to. Look at the number of times that they've prophecied the return of Christ [1918 - didn't happen, 1975, didn't happen, etc..]
(, Wed 8 Dec 2010, 9:34, closed)
Fucking wankers
I hate pious cunts.
(, Wed 8 Dec 2010, 9:46, closed)
Oh, and don't forget
The ONLY unforgiveable sin is.........to turns against JW's.

Control by fear, anyone?
(, Wed 8 Dec 2010, 12:38, closed)
I think most people are more fortunate with the family that they choose, rather than the one they've been born to.
(, Wed 8 Dec 2010, 14:27, closed)
4 pregnancies and 1 live baby, I feel your pain.

My daughter is 2 and a half and being a mum is the greatest thing ever. Been trying for almost a year since my last m/c in Jan with no luck, hopefully I too will again the joy of growing a baby.

I'm so happy for you sweetheart, I really am :)
(, Thu 9 Dec 2010, 1:35, closed)

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