as a self proclaimed fetish expert...
.. when you clamp something to your nipple or wherever. At first the pain is a sharp nasty "OWCH!" but it dulls down into an aching pain in which you mentally submit yourself to.

An adult male is in control of his life, day in day out and takes responsibility for everything. The fetish gives him a break from that control, and takes the pain. The person who can take the pain away is the girl. She is under his control.

Its hard to explain really what its all about.. But as with all fetishes... What repulses someone, will give someone else a hell of a blast.
(Miggyman, Sat 24 Oct 2009, 10:05, 2 replies)

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truth
(XmanX captain upsetter hahahahaha, Sun 25 Oct 2009, 5:39, closed)

"She is under his control"
Isn't that what they call "topping from the bottom"? I'd say surrendering that control to her and enduring her desires is the key - He suffers because she wants it. What should a good sub strive to do? Push his boundaries beyond his perceived limits for Her satisfaction, not his own.

Ah fuck it, you are dead on, it's hard to explain all this stuff, I say don't analyse it, just enjoy!

(And anyway when she takes the clamp off, it hurts a hell of a lot more than when it went on!)
(Rsoles, Mon 26 Oct 2009, 20:05, closed)