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Do you flirt with check-out girls just for the heck of it? Are you a check-out girl and flirt with sad-looking middle-aged men for fun? Are you Vernon Kay? Tell us about flirting triumphs and disasters

Thanks to Che Grimsdale for the suggestion

(, Thu 18 Feb 2010, 13:00)
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Yeah surprised they still told me to fuck off

B...b...but Mobi SAID!

Edit: On a serious note though, flirting surely is all just a sham. After all if you have to be a magician and bullshit or say/do things to impress someone - it's probably not the person for you. They either like YOU or they don't....no need to put on a show.
(, Mon 22 Feb 2010, 12:06, 2 replies)
That sounds dangerously close to "just be yourself"
which is the worst advice in the world, alongside "just ignore them and they'll leave you alone".
(, Mon 22 Feb 2010, 12:21, closed)
Yeah but they're going to find out what a cuntbeak I am
Sooner or later anyway.
(, Mon 22 Feb 2010, 12:37, closed)
Be yourself.
Unless you suck.
(, Mon 22 Feb 2010, 12:46, closed)
...you can break down your personality and work out if you've modelled the right/wrong people

More explained by my mate Nick here www.braddocksblog.com/2010/02/dating-tip-become-successful-with-women-by-modeling/
(, Mon 22 Feb 2010, 12:57, closed)
Heh. I was mostly joking.
My approach seems to basicaly be me saying "Hi, do you fancy getting a drink/coffee sometime or something?" Seems to work some of the time. Got over the entire rejection by a stranger issue a while back. But yeah, I'm guessing you're talking a bit about the entire cognitive approach? Destructive thought cycles and the like?
(, Mon 22 Feb 2010, 13:04, closed)
Reason it only works some of the time..
...is if that's your opening line (to a girl you don't know), you're asking for way too much compliance, from someone that doesn't even know you, too early on.

Think about it logically; is a girl, who this guy has never spoken to before, and who knows nothing about him, really likely to want to go somewhere alone with him...? Most probably not, hence, they decline.

Better, would be to strike up a conversation (ask about the book shes reading, which coffee is the best, what time the next train/bus etc is due) and build momentum from there.

Once shes had time to get to know you a bit then she will be more willing to accept when you suggest going for a coffee/drink.
(, Mon 22 Feb 2010, 13:33, closed)
Sounds like witchcraft to me.

(, Mon 22 Feb 2010, 13:50, closed)
I'll get the stake and faggots.

(, Mon 22 Feb 2010, 13:53, closed)
I don't think meat products will help now.

(, Mon 22 Feb 2010, 13:55, closed)
As if you'd ever turn down a salami.

(, Mon 22 Feb 2010, 13:57, closed)

(, Mon 22 Feb 2010, 13:58, closed)
Didn't realy think of it like that. I'll have to give that a try I guess.
(, Mon 22 Feb 2010, 14:02, closed)
Glad to hear it..
Einstein described insanity as;
"doing the same thing over and over, yet expecting different results..."
(, Mon 22 Feb 2010, 14:19, closed)
Sound advice
I always adopted the "just be yourself" stand in my days of singledom, it got a lot of wierd looks, but ultimately worked, because of my second pearl of wisdom...The Numbers Game (Tm) :p
(, Mon 22 Feb 2010, 13:04, closed)
True but...
...doing something to impress someone = emotionally over-reaching, which is why it isnt likely to work....
(, Mon 22 Feb 2010, 12:51, closed)

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