That sounds dangerously close to "just be yourself"
which is the worst advice in the world, alongside "just ignore them and they'll leave you alone".
( Colonel Dracula Two manky hookers and a racist dwarf, Mon 22 Feb 2010, 12:21, 3 replies)

Yeah but they're going to find out what a cuntbeak I am
Sooner or later anyway.
(Galahad is out of his gourd on yellow bentines, Mon 22 Feb 2010, 12:37, closed)

Be yourself.
Unless you suck.
(Fredz A graveyard of hopes, a dump of ambition, Mon 22 Feb 2010, 12:46, closed)

Unless...
...you can break down your personality and work out if you've modelled the right/wrong people

More explained by my mate Nick here www.braddocksblog.com/2010/02/dating-tip-become-successful-with-women-by-modeling/
(mobi I completed the Internet on 'hard'. Twice., Mon 22 Feb 2010, 12:57, closed)

Heh. I was mostly joking.
My approach seems to basicaly be me saying "Hi, do you fancy getting a drink/coffee sometime or something?" Seems to work some of the time. Got over the entire rejection by a stranger issue a while back. But yeah, I'm guessing you're talking a bit about the entire cognitive approach? Destructive thought cycles and the like?
(Fredz A graveyard of hopes, a dump of ambition, Mon 22 Feb 2010, 13:04, closed)

Reason it only works some of the time..
...is if that's your opening line (to a girl you don't know), you're asking for way too much compliance, from someone that doesn't even know you, too early on.

Think about it logically; is a girl, who this guy has never spoken to before, and who knows nothing about him, really likely to want to go somewhere alone with him...? Most probably not, hence, they decline.

Better, would be to strike up a conversation (ask about the book shes reading, which coffee is the best, what time the next train/bus etc is due) and build momentum from there.

Once shes had time to get to know you a bit then she will be more willing to accept when you suggest going for a coffee/drink.
(mobi I completed the Internet on 'hard'. Twice., Mon 22 Feb 2010, 13:33, closed)

Sounds like witchcraft to me.

( girlinthehole, Mon 22 Feb 2010, 13:50, closed)

I'll get the stake and faggots.

( Larry Vest One day at a time, sweet Jesus, FFS., Mon 22 Feb 2010, 13:53, closed)

I don't think meat products will help now.

( girlinthehole, Mon 22 Feb 2010, 13:55, closed)

As if you'd ever turn down a salami.

( Larry Vest One day at a time, sweet Jesus, FFS., Mon 22 Feb 2010, 13:57, closed)

*snort*

( girlinthehole, Mon 22 Feb 2010, 13:58, closed)

Hrm.
Didn't realy think of it like that. I'll have to give that a try I guess.
(Fredz A graveyard of hopes, a dump of ambition, Mon 22 Feb 2010, 14:02, closed)

Glad to hear it..
Einstein described insanity as;
"doing the same thing over and over, yet expecting different results..."
(mobi I completed the Internet on 'hard'. Twice., Mon 22 Feb 2010, 14:19, closed)

Sound advice
I always adopted the "just be yourself" stand in my days of singledom, it got a lot of wierd looks, but ultimately worked, because of my second pearl of wisdom...The Numbers Game (Tm) :p
(Corbo, Mon 22 Feb 2010, 13:04, closed)