they are useful
when body language and expressions aren't available.

I don't want to have to write "this is not meant as written, but should be taken as tongue-in-cheek" at the end of everything
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:43, 2 replies, latest was 15 years ago)

^^ This
^-^
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:44, Reply)

no
this is no excuse. spik eeenglish, boy.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:55, Reply)

I'm afraid you are wrong in this instance
also, I feel that my response to you in the previous thread was sadly neglected. I want to know what you think (for some reason) :-P
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:58, Reply)

to this:
I bet there was a grain of truth in it
and we weren't necessarily talking about you in particular.

The unfortunate thing is that as much as it sucks, it happens. Not everyone will do it. There is an element of needing to man the fuck up. It is not the fault of every man that she may have low self-esteem brought on by this, it is unlikely that any of them set out to bring her down.

Getting that worked up about it, and doing what seems like settling for someone awful because all the others she's been out with have been shit is a bit desperate in my view.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 16:00, Reply)

yep

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 16:03, Reply)

well yeah, 50% of what people say when they are joking is true
most of the time the whole "hey, i'll give you a call" thing is just a bit crap. if you've done it to a mate, or you've actually had sex rather than just a quick snog, it's a horrible thing to do to anyone, and you really are a cunt.

if it's just after a blind/dating website date, it's nowhere near as bad, but it is still a sign of a weak character, who isn't following the simple rule of being a decent human being: treat everyone as you would want to be treated.

a little bit. i think she is telling herself that dr hug is a genuinely lovely guy and she thinks there is something wrong with her for not fancying him, so wants to keep trying. whereas i think, he irritates the blue fuck out of you, move on!
( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 16:04, Reply)

capitulation!
yeah, the "I'll call you" thing is crap. There's even an episode of Friends about it.

Someone saying they'll call and then not pisses me right off personally (if it's a mate/work thing etc.) but then unpunctuality makes me want to commit murder too.

the thinking she should fancy him thing is where you should come and in and make sure she isn't just seeing him for that reason. You don't need to make her think what you do, but make sure she knows what she thinks and acts on it.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 16:09, Reply)

it can't be difficult to think
"how would i want this girl/guy to treat me" and then put that into action.

i mean - nobody would ask themselves that question and come up with the answer: "pretend to be keen in order to get laid, make all the moves on me, have sex with me, then say they'd call me when they had no intention of ever calling again", ffs!

if you think i haven't told her that, repeatedly and vehemently, most often sloshing vodka over her, you don't know me as well as i thought!
( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 16:24, Reply)

now we get to the crux:
most people are stupid and/or cunts.

you need to find a better way to drum it into her head.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 16:30, Reply)

well yeah
i'm certainly a lot more guarded than i used to be as a consequence of some stupid AND cuntish behaviour!

more vodka, vipros. more vodka.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 16:42, Reply)

good for you ;-)
a girl after my own heart. I love vodka.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 16:45, Reply)