My Pub Husband
Is my friend/ex-landlord. We just love the same (incredibly geeky) things, and everyone says that we'd make the perfect couple. However, he is in his mid-40's, married and not hot. So we aren't.

I'm feeling meh for a variety of reasons. Firstly because I've had to make a lot of life changes this week for my own good, which is the *big* thing. Specifically tonight, I decided to file away five years of work that I had loose in storage boxes, and apparently there's something about being surrounded by five years worth of education that you've pissed up the wall that makes you depressed. Who knew?
(BelladonnaAnodyne Melissa's gonna wet herself, I swear..., Fri 4 Mar 2011, 23:48, 1 reply, 15 years ago)

Out of sight. Out of mind.
If you've got the bit of paper that say 'I did that' what is the issue?
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Fri 4 Mar 2011, 23:51, Reply)

Because I'M A FUCKING BARMAID.
I'd say that's the main source of ire at the moment.
(BelladonnaAnodyne Melissa's gonna wet herself, I swear..., Fri 4 Mar 2011, 23:54, Reply)

Are you a GOOD barmaid though?

( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Sat 5 Mar 2011, 0:02, Reply)

Of course I am
Been doing it 4 1/2 years. I can run that damn pub blindfolded. But really, it's not good.
(BelladonnaAnodyne Melissa's gonna wet herself, I swear..., Sat 5 Mar 2011, 0:06, Reply)

Are there no job opportunities near you?

( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Sat 5 Mar 2011, 0:07, Reply)

Is law still the preferred route, career wise?

( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Sat 5 Mar 2011, 0:07, Reply)

To respond to you both
The 'plan' was to join the CPS when I graduated, and the month I graduated they announced that they weren't taking anyone on for at least two years because of government cuts. Now I have no clue what I want to do, just that I don't want to get an office job just for the sake of having one.
(BelladonnaAnodyne Melissa's gonna wet herself, I swear..., Sat 5 Mar 2011, 0:13, Reply)

But would a 9-5 give you that chance to study/write further?

( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Sat 5 Mar 2011, 0:15, Reply)

I couldn't afford to study more.
I'm reticent about getting a 9-5 because a) my sleep and other things aren't brilliant at the moment and b) if I had a secure job, I'd probably just end up keeping it and never taking the leap of doing something I really wanted to (whatever that may be).
(BelladonnaAnodyne Melissa's gonna wet herself, I swear..., Sat 5 Mar 2011, 0:19, Reply)

Surely your options would still be open if you went 9-5
As you've got the bar-skills to call upon if you decide to step off the ladder?

Why not have a look at something slightly different, you strike be as being a bit bohemian.

How would the 3rd sector suit?

jobs.thirdsector.co.uk/jobs/?CMP=KNC-GOOGLE&gclid=CMvm-KmVtqcCFUdP4QodDluEAA
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Sat 5 Mar 2011, 0:24, Reply)

I dunno
I'm looking for a career, rather than a job - if that makes sense?
(BelladonnaAnodyne Melissa's gonna wet herself, I swear..., Sat 5 Mar 2011, 0:33, Reply)

But you can have a career within the third sector.
These organisations are smaller than most corporates and if you've got qualifications that might be relevant to the work they're doing, they'd be looking at calling on the skills of staff far more than those companies who can 'buy in' resources at the drop of a hat.

If you want to use your qualifications, and be able to show this on your C.V, then there are worse route you could follow.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Sat 5 Mar 2011, 0:36, Reply)

Alright Bella
I've found myself a husband en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Daniel_Poulter *

*Yes, I am joking
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Sat 5 Mar 2011, 0:43, Reply)

s'OK Amber
I got mine here: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dan_Jarvis
(BelladonnaAnodyne Melissa's gonna wet herself, I swear..., Sat 5 Mar 2011, 0:51, Reply)

Hmm recently widowed.

( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Sat 5 Mar 2011, 0:56, Reply)

Exactly, ditch the kids and we're good to go!

(BelladonnaAnodyne Melissa's gonna wet herself, I swear..., Sat 5 Mar 2011, 0:58, Reply)

Actually I feel a tiny bit creepy now
chances are good I'll meet him at some point, and just end up thinking 'without your knowledge you're my internet husband'
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Sat 5 Mar 2011, 1:12, Reply)

Not the best of days then, Amberl?

( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Sat 5 Mar 2011, 0:52, Reply)

He seems alright
how're you Jeff?
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Sat 5 Mar 2011, 0:55, Reply)

Wow, how bad does it feel for Jeff of all people to blank you...

( The Light in Chains don't touch the Pope's boner, Sat 5 Mar 2011, 1:19, Reply)

I dunno what I've done wrong LiC :(

( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Sat 5 Mar 2011, 1:21, Reply)