Top tips
Sharing a sense of humour is obvious, sharing some but not necessarily all tastes is also a given. Having a compatible sex drive, being open to what your partner likes, and being open minded is important as well. My biggest tip for a happy relationship is to realise that it's not just 'ok' to want your own space from time to time, it's bloody essential. Also, your time at work does not qualify as your own space.

Dealbreakers:
Poor hygiene, being messy and lazy all the time, expecting me to pay for everything, never being able to make a decision (double points if every time I have to make them you disagree, but still don't come up with an answer), talking about marriage and babies within weeks of hooking up, saying "digickal" instead of "digital".
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 9:45, 4 replies, latest was 15 years ago)

You are definitely right about the space thing.
Not being able to have time to yourself/with your friends is just fucking awful.
(BelladonnaAnodyne Melissa's gonna wet herself, I swear..., Wed 9 Mar 2011, 9:52, Reply)

Uh huh
Even if it's just the two of you in separate rooms doing your own thing for a bit.
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 9:58, Reply)

Definitely
Although the worst worst worst thing is being made to feel bad for going out with your friends.
(BelladonnaAnodyne Melissa's gonna wet herself, I swear..., Wed 9 Mar 2011, 10:07, Reply)

Shit yeah
And you reminded me I'd forgotten to put "being passive aggressive or using guilt trips" as a dealbreaker.
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 10:09, Reply)

I seem to be a bugger for the passive aggressive thing.
I didn't even realise till recently.
( girlinthehole, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 10:11, Reply)

Yuck.
'Sulking just because the other person is (reasonably) having a good time' should be on there too.
(BelladonnaAnodyne Melissa's gonna wet herself, I swear..., Wed 9 Mar 2011, 10:11, Reply)

You're pretty much 100% right there
though I'll disregard the digital/digickal thing, considering I'm personally incapable of pronouncing the word penguin right apparantly.
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 9:52, Reply)

What do you say?
pen-goo-win?
( Naked Ape call me Caitlyn, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 9:52, Reply)

nope
that's how I hear it when other people say it. Apparantly I say peng-weng
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 9:56, Reply)

it should be pen-gwin

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 9:57, Reply)

Thank you
The last bit was to end on a somewhat flippant remark, though persistent mispronunciation of words would irritate me.
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 9:56, Reply)

can you pronounce theatre correctly?
as in thea-ter instead of the-ET-er
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 9:56, Reply)

of course
generally my words are perfectly formed haha, but some things are just locked in my head a certain way
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 9:57, Reply)

I've known a couple of people who were generally well-spoken and such
and yet couldn't say theatre or beatrice or other similar things. Couldn't hear what they were doing wrong either.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 9:59, Reply)

my friend emma simply cannot hear the difference between "dew" and "jew"

( rachelswipe with a fork, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 10:01, Reply)

I've noticed this as well
the only words I have trouble with that I can think of are penguin, fajita, and currently the word most
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 10:02, Reply)

My sister, who is otherwise very erudite, believed that the word "awry" was pronounced "aw-ree" until she was 23
She is yet to live this down.
(Darth Foxtrot A one-man army dedicated to making fetch happen, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 10:02, Reply)

I have a habit of saying words for the first time to my mother
I've seen them written plenty and know what they mean, but always say it to her and she corrects me. it's embarrassing.

things like zealot and damask, so not your everyday words
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 10:04, Reply)

A friend does that with me
She'll say them for me to correct her.
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 10:08, Reply)

She does that because she knows you get a filthy sexual thrill out of being right
She obviously wants you to plow her
(Darth Foxtrot A one-man army dedicated to making fetch happen, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 10:10, Reply)

Of course she does
I'm awesome.
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 10:11, Reply)

What are you still doing here?
There's willing fanny a-waitin'!
(Darth Foxtrot A one-man army dedicated to making fetch happen, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 10:13, Reply)

Because the girl in question is my ex
So that's not happening.
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 10:15, Reply)

That is a very responsible and mature attitude
Have you learnt nothing from B3ta?!
(Darth Foxtrot A one-man army dedicated to making fetch happen, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 10:17, Reply)

Whilst she is still rather cruelly looking amazingly hot
It would not be worth the aftermath at all. Plus she has a boyfriend.
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 10:21, Reply)

Girls are mean like that
There should be some sort of rule that dictates that post-break up she contracts a terminal case of The Munts
(Darth Foxtrot A one-man army dedicated to making fetch happen, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 10:25, Reply)

dealbreakers after a reeeaaalllly long time
*phones self*
*calls self a hypocritical bitch*
*apologies to self*
*invites self out for a drink later*
( TGB checking Off Topic is still shit at, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 9:57, Reply)

I knew you'd say something
Besides, not like you can talk...
Edit: Eh, you edited in the content afterwards, but I'm keeping my post.
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 9:59, Reply)

all this
you'd be surprised how many men want to yammer on about kids. it's bloody terrifying and it just makes you tense up to prevent sex from ever happening.

also letting the other person pay for everything is a dumpable offence. not even saying thank you is worthy of acid in the face.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 10:00, Reply)

Acid? Face?

( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 10:02, Reply)

Not saying 'thank you' is a personal bugbear
Manners don't cost a penny.
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 10:10, Reply)

i hate it! it takes away all the fun of treating someone if they don't have the common courtesy to thank you for it
did you just ASSUME i was going to pay? how rude are you?

are you embarrassed that you just let me pay? well, perhaps you should be. how rude are you?

lather, rinse, repeat in seething sulking silence.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 10:14, Reply)