I don't particularly mind being on my own
although I was quite emo about it for a bit, it's fine right now. It's just a bit depressing seeing all of your mates couple off and settle down and being the token single one. Some of them are already talking about families and mortgages and I'm like woah there! I'm not ready for any of that shit!
(berk, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:09, 5 replies, latest was 15 years ago)

You don't have to be
They're not asking you to have kids or a mortgage with them.
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:11, Reply)

You only split up with your fella a couple of months ago didn't you?
Let them do what they like. Mortgages and families aren't my thing either and I don't feel under pressure. I'm well older than all of my mates (who are mostly paired off) and never felt like the token single nor did it affect my social life. Do something about your outlook gal!
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:12, Reply)

Yes Roota, sorry Roota.
It doesn't help that my family keeps nagging me about boyfriends and families and shit either, I do genuinely feel a bit like I 'ought' to be chasing these things because they are apparently the 'normal' things that everybody my age 'wants' to be doing. This is backed up by the fact that probably 80% of my mates are in fact doing them.

Oh well, bollocks to them. I'm going to have a career and go travelling and get a cat instead.
(berk, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:18, Reply)

fuck normal
do what you want to do. it's your life, not your family's or anyone else's

I have a house and am getting married because I want to, not through some feeling that I ought to be doing it.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:20, Reply)

Eugh my family does this
everytime I mention a boy in passing, I get the inevitable question. This may be however because my mother is deathly afraid that I'm a lesbian
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:21, Reply)

Many years ago before I got engaged, I used to be on the receiving end of comments from relatives
Whenever there was a family wedding or Christening. Things like, 'Oooh, you'll be next'.

It soon stops when you start making the same comment to them at family funerals.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:24, Reply)

Hahaha

( Kroney, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:25, Reply)

Do it.
You'll see what I'm on about. Jesus, I only have the cat bit, not even the career or the travelling, but I'm still really happy and sod everyone else.
(I know I have a bloke now but he's still fairly recent, and fortunately I don't have to see him too often, so I'm still living the single life. Got a date with a pool attendant tonight.)
I'm actually watching that thing about the English National Ballet and the second half of How to Train your Dragon Tonight. Alone. With my cat. In tracky bottoms.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:23, Reply)

families can fuck off
most of my mates are paired off and have mortgages, but are still just the same as before. It's the way to be. Only one set have a kid though, and we are only just now getting them back after 2 years.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:12, Reply)

Oh, well if you're not ready for that stuff
then obviously they shouldn't talk about how they're doing it. How jolly inconsiderate of them.
( Kroney, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:14, Reply)

It is, isn't it?

(berk, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:19, Reply)

No

( Kroney, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:19, Reply)

25 onwards people start rushing to settle down
what's the point? your 40's are for buying curtains.

that gives you FIFTEEN YEARS before you need to even think about it! there are so many lovely things about being single that you miss when you are in a couple. you can't control it so make the most of it by having great nights out and a decent night's sleep and holidays with your friends and dates/sex with exciting, unsuitable men.

eventually one of them will turn out to be exciting and suitable.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:16, Reply)

This^

( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:18, Reply)

*rushes out and buys curtains*

( girlinthehole, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:32, Reply)

CHINTZ ONES

( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:33, Reply)

Nah! I have taste.

( girlinthehole, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:40, Reply)