think how stupid and shit most people are in general
not from a dating point of view necessarily.

It's fine to be selective about going for someone because if things work out then you are likely to be spending an awful lot of time with someone and you want them to be the right person.

yeah, for some people it works fine just meeting and hitting it off, but I was friends with my mrs for 4 years before we got together.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:23, 1 reply, 15 years ago)

Discussed this with a friend
I could just be too picky, but there are some things I just can't compromise on.
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:24, Reply)

and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that at all
it's your life, you don't want to spend it with someone who doesn't come up to scratch, or spend your time trying to change them.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:26, Reply)

Changing people is hopeless
I've never got why people try and do it.

You're right (and we came to the same conclusion) but that does mean I've pretty much put myself in the 'alone forever' box
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:27, Reply)

Me too
But I'm cool with it.
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:29, Reply)

same here, fortunately my mrs agrees!
with that conclusion in mind, you need to weigh up which you'd mind more, being single (not necessarily alone, friends are good for some stuff) or compromising on what you are looking for.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:29, Reply)

I don't think I can compromise
on the three key basics. Everything else is open to discussion (I'm not bothered about their interests or whether we share stuff in common etc)
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:30, Reply)

what were the basics again?
plenty of: anal, mainlining hard drugs, shellsuits?
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:32, Reply)

I'm not Northern!
They need to be as clever or cleverer than me. (I'm not saying I'm hugely clever, but that's the baseline) they need to have a sense of humour, preferably one as bad as mine, and they need to be at least vaguely attractive to me (not necessarily to other people, but to me) because I don't think you can have a relationship with someone you're not sexually attracted to.
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:35, Reply)

perfectly reasonable
and I'm sorry I'm unavailable
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:37, Reply)

good
because you're only 2 out of 3 beardy
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:39, Reply)

damn, knew I wasn't funny

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:39, Reply)

I'm not, I couldn't take that kind of compitition.

( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 13:11, Reply)

I reckon it's the intelligence one that's tripping you up.
Men are pretty base creatures. At university age they're also still pretty immature. Takes time for us to grow an appreciation for intelligence. Give it a couple of years and you'll be fighting them off with a shitty stick.
( Kroney, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:38, Reply)

I agree with this

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:39, Reply)

I agree
And not only because she's a clever girl.
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:45, Reply)

Amberl would totally eat Muldoon for breakfast.

( Kroney, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:48, Reply)

*finger pistols and winks*

( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:49, Reply)

pistols bangs i a
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:56, Reply)

If only I had the chance
I'M GOING TO DIE ALONE!!!!1
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:58, Reply)

very soon

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 13:00, Reply)

Eh, maybe, who knows?

( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 13:01, Reply)

hmm, my threat seems to have passed you by

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 13:05, Reply)

No it didn't
I just didn't find it that threatening.
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 13:06, Reply)

I'm pretty sure as well
that I was reading some article about men aiming downwards intelligence wise, which means I'm limited some more, and especially more because no-one wants a patronising arsehole.*

*musky or otherwise
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:49, Reply)

Hey, I never talk to a woman's breasts!

( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:50, Reply)

Stupidity is massively unattractive. It just takes guys a few years to realise it.

( Kroney, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:55, Reply)

I once went on a first date with a girl who said
"I don't understand why anyone reads books, if it's any good they'll make a film."

There wasn't a second date.
( The Light in Chains don't touch the Pope's boner, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 13:12, Reply)

good grief

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 13:18, Reply)

Rorschach: Never compromise. Not even in the face of Armageddon.

( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:31, Reply)

I put myself in that box once.
You really have no idea what freak will turn up and appear agreeable to you in the future ;)
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:31, Reply)

Nor should you
Pickiness is a good thing. Sure it might make you single for a while, but I'd rather that than 'making do'.
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:27, Reply)

^this
if there is one time you shouldn't "make do" it is with whom you are in a relationship.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:31, Reply)

Oh, I very definitely agree with this
I do sometimes wonder if I'm too picky to ever be happy though.
(berk, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:39, Reply)

that's how you are though
and there's no changing that. Better to be picky than to end up stuck with something shit.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 9 Mar 2011, 12:40, Reply)