I have no idea
my brain just can't think of anything truly dirty, because if it's consensual and legal then it's not perverted, is it?
Cheating's pretty bad. I'm not sure on which side of the fence I stand on with that. Because if you're going to sleep with someone you know is married then you know you're doing something wrong but a lot of people will tell you that you shouldn't feel guilty because you haven't broken a vow [if you're single and they're married].
( Lisette von Falcon, Mon 25 Jul 2011, 21:37, 1 reply, 15 years ago)

I'll come down on the side of it being wrong
Even if you're not the one in a relationship, although a bit less wrong I suppose. Now there's a shocker, given our recent conversation about sexual ethics.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Mon 25 Jul 2011, 21:44, Reply)

I don't think we were having a discussion on that, more like our opinions on interpretation of sending knickers to someone you fancy

( Lisette von Falcon, Mon 25 Jul 2011, 21:46, Reply)

Well, yes
That and sex before/after entering a committed relationship. I just meant that in that conversation you came across as a lady with principals and I a slut.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Mon 25 Jul 2011, 21:50, Reply)

I am a slut.
I'd like to find a man that would be willing to commit to me, but I can't, which was why I'd said that once I have sex with a man I have absolutely no interest in him. There's no reason, we both got what we wanted. We both move on.
( Lisette von Falcon, Mon 25 Jul 2011, 21:52, Reply)

while I will happily self apply that label
I wouldn't apply it to you, unfortunate seems more appropriate.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Mon 25 Jul 2011, 21:54, Reply)

Oh, gross.
That makes it seem a lot worse.
( Lisette von Falcon, Mon 25 Jul 2011, 21:59, Reply)

Sorry.
You can be a slut then, I'll shut up.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Mon 25 Jul 2011, 22:00, Reply)

OH YEAH
like I don't feel bad enough already, you go and call me UNFORTUNATE
ugh
( Lisette von Falcon, Mon 25 Jul 2011, 22:10, Reply)

Well, I meant you seemed like you'd had shitty luck
when it came to men, wasn't meant as an insult. *digs deeper still*
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Mon 25 Jul 2011, 22:17, Reply)

it's true, and your word was honestly more accurate and probably better than mine
Just winding you up ;)
( Lisette von Falcon, Mon 25 Jul 2011, 22:20, Reply)

Well done, you succeeded.
Glad I didn't genuinely offend.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Mon 25 Jul 2011, 22:26, Reply)

I think that encouraging someone to cheat
and being the person cheating are equally as wrong. Just because you're single and not breaking the vow doesn't absolve you from cheating and hurting; it's not something I would ever do.
(berk, Mon 25 Jul 2011, 21:54, Reply)

In theory I agree
In reality, I have never and would never cheat, but I did once get involved with a girl whose relationship was on the rocks. In my defence I can't remember how far we got before she left him (it was a long time ago I don't think we got physical) and we were together for 2 years.

I felt bad about it at the time but I did do it, and I can see possibly doing it again, which I can't say for cheating, so there's a difference in my head anyway.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Mon 25 Jul 2011, 21:57, Reply)

There's plenty of people that cheat without being encouraged to.
The first time I was almost in a relationship I had no idea he was already with a girl, was moving in with her, and they'd been together for three years.
( Lisette von Falcon, Mon 25 Jul 2011, 22:00, Reply)

That's different though
You had no idea and were therefore not culpable. If you'd found out and continued to see him then you'd be at fault. In my head at least.
(berk, Mon 25 Jul 2011, 22:02, Reply)