haha
everyone's different. look at cancertwat yesterday - on a serious note underneath the horseshit, he genuinely thinks getting his wife knocked up and tying himself down when he was so young was a great thing. which is baffling to ME. and he genuinely thinks that my work hard, play hard lifestyle of loads of friends, boyfriends, socialising and travelling is a bad thing. yet presumably we're both pretty happy with what we've got.

it takes all sorts!
( rachelswipe with a fork, Fri 14 Oct 2011, 14:20, 1 reply, 14 years ago)

This is true.
It's also true that we tend to justify our decisions/lifestyle as being the best way to do things after the event, rather than deciding to go a certain way because it makes sense. I'd say this applies to you and CJ both, probably me too.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Fri 14 Oct 2011, 14:23, Reply)

bit of both
people who want to settle down generally have serious relationships from a young age, for example.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Fri 14 Oct 2011, 14:28, Reply)

True, but there is also an element of justification after the event.
when you find yourself shackled in a loveless marriage with no life and 7 screming fucktard children you tend to find reasons why this is really what you wanted all along.

Equally when you find yourself working most of your working hours with little human closeness in your life and little spritual fulfilment, you tend to deride those who are happy and settled.


In fairness I should add that when you have made a royal fuck up of both your marriage and career you tend to look down your nose at people who have been successful in either area as if you have some how chosen to have nothing to show for 36 years of your life.


*commits suicide*
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Fri 14 Oct 2011, 14:36, Reply)

hahaha
it's hardly as black and white as all that!

eg you can be very happily single without feeling a lack of human closeness - that's what friends and family are for!
( rachelswipe with a fork, Fri 14 Oct 2011, 14:42, Reply)