no idea
as i've never done family law, sorry. i'd have said citizens advice is first free step.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 18 Feb 2013, 12:47, 1 reply, 12 years ago)

Fair enough, had to ask :-)
Think he's been to the CAB already, in fact I believe he termed them "shit".
(Darth Foxtrot A one-man army dedicated to making fetch happen, Mon 18 Feb 2013, 12:47, Reply)

yeah, i guess you get what you pay for
but in this case, where he hasn't asked the CSA to come down on the fathers they can find who were doing their role, it sucks hairy donkey dick.

i say go back in v robust terms putting them to strict proof on every penny and totally reserving his position. then he can see what they come back with to see if he needs a lawyer. chances are it's a standard letter banged out with no thought!
( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 18 Feb 2013, 12:50, Reply)

That sounds like a good plan
and pretty much what he has in mind I think. I reckon you're probably right and that a lot of these letters will end up coming to nothing, but imagine how many poor buggers are out there who won't try to fight it and will just get cleaned out.
(Darth Foxtrot A one-man army dedicated to making fetch happen, Mon 18 Feb 2013, 12:53, Reply)

they have asked for too much
threaten her dad with £5k and he might cough up. threaten him with £50k and he'll tell them to fuck off.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 18 Feb 2013, 12:55, Reply)

Very true
They've asked the wrong person, too. He won't do anything he doesn't think is entirely fair. He was caring for three daughters 1 week in 2 following the divorce so the suggestion that he should have coughed up for the other week as well is clearly bollocks.
(Darth Foxtrot A one-man army dedicated to making fetch happen, Mon 18 Feb 2013, 12:56, Reply)

Don't forget he owed his wife spousal support as well as maintenance
and the CSA won't give a shit if he was 50/50 with the ex if the ex didn't tell them.
(Set your faces to Stunned Bigly, Mon 18 Feb 2013, 13:00, Reply)

Genuinely no idea about this, and I appreciate I haven't provided all the facts
Why would he owe her spousal support? She was living with another chap pretty quickly after the divorce, in fact the divorce was her fault.
(Darth Foxtrot A one-man army dedicated to making fetch happen, Mon 18 Feb 2013, 13:02, Reply)

Straying into internet lawyerman territory.

(Set your faces to Stunned Bigly, Mon 18 Feb 2013, 13:04, Reply)

^this
I would add that it is totally unreasonable to expect him to deal with their corresppondence in the format presented. And is likely in breach of their own guidelines which he should look up.
(Set your faces to Stunned Bigly, Mon 18 Feb 2013, 12:56, Reply)

I breached your mum's guidelines last night

( Naked Ape call me Caitlyn, Mon 18 Feb 2013, 12:59, Reply)

I bet you were really unreasonable too.

(Set your faces to Stunned Bigly, Mon 18 Feb 2013, 13:01, Reply)

fucking insurers

( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 18 Feb 2013, 13:01, Reply)

You wish.

(Set your faces to Stunned Bigly, Mon 18 Feb 2013, 13:03, Reply)

greggs hat bebbeh

( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 18 Feb 2013, 13:05, Reply)

Good point that
Asking for £43K in a letter is taking the piss innit
(Darth Foxtrot A one-man army dedicated to making fetch happen, Mon 18 Feb 2013, 13:03, Reply)

CAB = 'here are some leaflets, now fuck off'

( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Mon 18 Feb 2013, 13:09, Reply)

'but before you go, please fill in this form to tell us if you're a black humpbacked muslim lesbian or not, for our statistics'

( Fucking hell Jeff I am not a robot, Mon 18 Feb 2013, 13:12, Reply)