Maybe not, but perhaps the threat of going for it would be enough to convince her not to be a dick about access.

( Kroney, Fri 28 Feb 2014, 11:06, 1 reply, 11 years ago)

I'm not sure being a dick is the best way to counter someone else being a dick

( tangledupinblue hairy badge with moving eyes, Fri 28 Feb 2014, 11:11, Reply)

^ this

( Fucking hell Jeff I am not a robot, Fri 28 Feb 2014, 11:12, Reply)

Dicks fuck pussies and sometimes they fuck arseholes etc

( Kroney, Fri 28 Feb 2014, 11:13, Reply)

you are EXACTLY right
in this situation, or any other potential conflict, always remember everything can be printed off and shown to the court as evidence of un/reasonableness. emails, texts, screendumps of facebook... it all goes to paint a picture.

the best thing is to have a chain of gentle, well reasoned correspondence saying, "I don't understand why you are doing this, please can you explain, or otherwise I will have no alternative but to go back to my lawyer, but I am trying my best to avoid this for your sake, mine and micro's." and if that doesn't work, leave it to the lawyer to fuck with her lawyer. I can't believe her lawyer is going to say, "ooh yes, it was a great idea suddenly to withhold access, keep that up".
( rachelswipe with a fork, Fri 28 Feb 2014, 11:14, Reply)

I'm nearly always right.

( tangledupinblue hairy badge with moving eyes, Fri 28 Feb 2014, 11:17, Reply)

I am nearly always a hothead.

( Kroney, Fri 28 Feb 2014, 11:18, Reply)

^^^^this
you have to play the long game, what might be a short term victory will probably end up losing you the war in the end.
(localboy purveyor of pisspoor puns, Fri 28 Feb 2014, 11:18, Reply)

I have kept a written record of every day - even noting the days of no contact, what sort of mood micro has been in, what we've done together, any conversation with my ex, copies of emails etc. since we split.

( Fucking hell Jeff I am not a robot, Fri 28 Feb 2014, 11:28, Reply)

Excellent work.
I have to say that for all my ex was becoming slightly unhinged during the final days of our marriage, she's always been pretty reasonable with all things regarding the kids.
(Reverend Fister "a disciplined fuckwit", Fri 28 Feb 2014, 11:30, Reply)

There is so much detail it's about an 80 page word document.

( Fucking hell Jeff I am not a robot, Fri 28 Feb 2014, 11:33, Reply)

Of course shit's gonna fly if you have to use it, but if things go nuclear it's best to have the biggest bomb I guess

(Reverend Fister "a disciplined fuckwit", Fri 28 Feb 2014, 11:37, Reply)

I've also got a couple of friends who have offered affadvits about my ex's behaviour should I need them.

( Fucking hell Jeff I am not a robot, Fri 28 Feb 2014, 11:38, Reply)

Ideal. Hopefully she'll see sense and it won't come to that.

(Reverend Fister "a disciplined fuckwit", Fri 28 Feb 2014, 11:44, Reply)

good
keep all the detail. your lawyer is good. he will tell you which bits he needs to use. the more he has, the more it helps him.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Fri 28 Feb 2014, 11:39, Reply)