can anyone help?
i've never been much of an emotional chap,so when first year of uni came round i bid a cheery goodbye to my parents and set off in my own,independent way.
now that second year has rolled around and fallen off,i find that i'm getting progressively more attached to my home and family.leaving after summer was pretty hard,and coming away after christmas is tougher still.
isn't that wrong?aren't you supposed to grow less attached as time goes by?
(Fuckpig "That's not even a pound a midget.", Mon 12 Jan 2009, 2:25, 9 replies, latest was 17 years ago)

hmm Im unsure
Majority of my friends who've completed their degree have all come home with no desire to leave ever again. Maybe not to live with ma n pa but definately within spitting range.

Absence makes the heart grow fonder :)
(i should have joined myspace, Mon 12 Jan 2009, 2:54, Reply)

I moved out when I was 19...am now 34...
and have never lived more than 10 miles away from my parents.

It helps that we have 5 universities within a 50 mile radius of my house so it's not like I had to go far for school.
( flirting with badgers What? It sounded good at the time., Mon 12 Jan 2009, 4:42, Reply)

feelings have no rules
I think that whatever you are feeling is ok - it may be painful, but try not to be too hard on yourself. There is no logic to emotions. So no right/wrong. Everyone is different. Just be honest with yourself and try not to be overwhelmed by the changes you are going through. Feelings are not reality. They are not danger. If you need to, speak to a counselor. No shame in that. Good luck.
( cackers, Mon 12 Jan 2009, 5:30, Reply)

^ What cackers said
No point trying to second-guess your emotions - they are what they are.

If you want to understand why you feel a particular way, don't force it. It can be incredibly elusive, but it'll become clear eventually.
( Noeli overtheshoulderboulderholderthingstraplatchboobs, Mon 12 Jan 2009, 8:23, Reply)

What's that Fuckpig..?
You're gay?

Well I never.
( Bert Monkeysex is waiting for the mods to delete him, Mon 12 Jan 2009, 9:06, Reply)

I moved when I was 18
to go to uni in london, 1.5 hours away from my folks. I was ok, didnt get so homesick. But I know a lot of people who did.

Then two years ago I moved to another country and now I live 1000 miles away. It was damn hard leaving my folks at xmas to come home to norway again. I think it's just natural to miss the people you care for.

Don't worry too hard about it, take the time to go visit as much as you can. It'll be ok :)
(darras jeg har en grevling i hodet. Grevling, grevlang, Mon 12 Jan 2009, 10:10, Reply)

I found the second year away to be the hardest one.
The first one is full of new stuff and joy at independence. The third one is tinged with the knowledge that'll it'll all soon be over. So the second one can feel a bit run-of-the-mill: the 'fun' of poverty has worn off, the fact that all the work counts now has set in.

It does get better - when I subsequently moved 6000 miles away, I was fine!
( thealternativefact, Mon 12 Jan 2009, 10:40, Reply)

monkeysex
i'm gay for you.
(Fuckpig "That's not even a pound a midget.", Mon 12 Jan 2009, 13:41, Reply)

Mmmm.... fuckpig
you's and me, we can get it on any time you like, I'm a total fucking slag.
( Bert Monkeysex is waiting for the mods to delete him, Mon 12 Jan 2009, 13:47, Reply)