Was I too harsh?
I have a friend who constantly asks to borrow $20 on a Friday. It got to the point where I started to give him $30 if he cleaned my apartment on a Friday. He does a FANTASTIC job of cleaning my place (it's small and I keep it clean and tidy during the week - he just does dishes & kitchen, cleans the bathroom, vacuums).
I also pay him to do odd jobs for me, like moving my stuff from my old apartment to my new one, putting up shelves - that kind of stuff.

Last night, he asked to borrow my car (not a problem as I can drive my boyfriends other car), but I asked him to park it in my parking spot at home as I was staying with my partner and he would take me home in the morning so I could get ready for work etc. My friend assured me he would.

I got home, showered, got ready for work and walked over to my carport. Car not there. Walked around the apartment complex for 10 minutes, while calling my friend to ask where the fuck he'd parked it. Turns out he'd parked it in his girlfriends carport...BUT, until today I didn't know exactly where she lived. I ended up getting the bus to work, fucking furious at my friend.
He apologized etc etc, and promised to unpack my boxes (which I'd paid him to do). I got home tonight...boxes not unpacked but 3/4 of a bottle of vodka was gone, 4 beers were gone and a pack of homemade elk sausages were gone.

I called him and told him that I feel he's taking advantage of my generosity, as I pay him to do stuff for me. I don't mind him having a beer while he's doing it, but don't leave me with none. And don't drink 3/4 of a bottle of my vodka and take food that's not ready to make (sandwiches or whatever). He said he understood, but as he's a friend I felt like such a heel having to say stuff to him about it.

I've never been in this situation before. Was I too harsh, did I do the right thing, or am I just a cunt?
( Batshitmentalist is sane for once, Sat 17 Jan 2009, 6:51, 14 replies, latest was 16 years ago)

Yeah
( enoughblueskyforsailorstrousers, Sat 17 Jan 2009, 7:52, Reply)

Your friend is an arsehole.

( mike woz ere 7442200 & 7696970 getter, Sat 17 Jan 2009, 8:11, Reply)

Sounds like he's the cunt
He's been out of order. It's not a big deal, but you're obviously annoyed else you wouldn't have written this.

Stand up for yourself.
( Noeli overtheshoulderboulderholderthingstraplatchboobs, Sat 17 Jan 2009, 8:12, Reply)

I bet it was those good-for-nothings Roland Zamora or Sioux Kerns wasn't it.
I've messaged them a link to this thread so they know they were out of order.

lololol
( mike woz ere 7442200 & 7696970 getter, Sat 17 Jan 2009, 8:22, Reply)

Sounds like one of those people
for whom nobody else is quite real.
( The Light in Chains don't touch the Pope's boner, Sat 17 Jan 2009, 8:30, Reply)

@Mike!
LOL! No, neither of them :D

And you should sign up on my group I started tonight ;)
( Batshitmentalist is sane for once, Sat 17 Jan 2009, 8:33, Reply)

Well clearly you are a cunt
since you're on here, but your mate is being a complete cock as well. I would tell him to sort his life out and stop paying him yourself. Surely he can get a proper job?
(Bazongaloid, Sat 17 Jan 2009, 8:51, Reply)

Not at all
Your friend needs to grow a pair and stop mooching off you if you ask me...
( jim_bob can herd cats., Sat 17 Jan 2009, 10:09, Reply)

you did right
seems he's gotten bit too comfortable with your generous ways.

a suggestion: if you want to help him, stop funding him. he needs to find a proper job in order to grow up and discover how life works.
Anyone who causes a friend to resort to buses, and drinks their booze (!!) is not right.

I says sack him.
( cackers, Sat 17 Jan 2009, 13:47, Reply)

He is the cunt for having put you in that position.
Money and friendship always seems to end badly. He should have never asked to borrow that first $20, and thus, snowballing into the situation it is today: ie, him taking advantage of your kindness.
( flirting with badgers What? It sounded good at the time., Sat 17 Jan 2009, 20:43, Reply)

he's being a cunt, but...
Let's be honest. If you were to go out and hire a cleaning lady who did as good a job as your ``friend'' seems to, you'd be paying more than $30. So he probably feels entitled to help himself to the odd beer or vodka. Besides, he probably still thinks of himself as being your friend, thus feels more entitled. Bottom line, either suck it up and hire a pro, or do it yourself. It will be better for the friendship in the long run.
(tuqueboy has been in a medically -induced coma since, Sat 17 Jan 2009, 23:50, Reply)

So......I took the keys off him
yesterday. Felt bad, but I had to do it.
( Batshitmentalist is sane for once, Sun 18 Jan 2009, 19:03, Reply)

Ouch.
I had a good friend do similar things to me. I haven't talked to him in months now.

Sometimes you have to take a harsh stance. You're not the cunt, he is.
( The Resident Loon Not a demographic. Do not measure., Mon 19 Jan 2009, 18:02, Reply)

Elk Sausages?
You total cunt.
( Bert Monkeysex is waiting for the mods to delete him, Tue 20 Jan 2009, 16:46, Reply)