My father, as we know, can be a colossal cunt at times.
He has been unusually cuntish in begrudging my mother petrol money to go and visit her dying mother, who lives a mere 45 minutes away, once a fucking week. Separation is being considered, except mother will never be strong enough to leave him.
( Maladicta, Mon 21 Sep 2009, 20:07, 3 replies, latest was 16 years ago)

so you're going to kill him

( Lisette von Falcon, Mon 21 Sep 2009, 20:08, Reply)

He's not spoken to me for over a year anyway
but he has a black belt in karate so he could probably fuck me up before I got near him...
( Maladicta, Mon 21 Sep 2009, 20:13, Reply)

Gah!
No wonder she appears so clingy at times. From what I remember, you're an only child, and you'll be all she's got left if they separate.

But perhaps she should just spend a long time at your gran's bedside and see how she copes without her husband.
( mistaspakkaman and the inedible shifting caterpillars, Mon 21 Sep 2009, 20:10, Reply)

She's coping without him as it is; he genuinely does not seem to give a shit about her or her feelings,
much less that my granny is dying. I can't force her to leave but I've told her what I think is best for her :(
( Maladicta, Mon 21 Sep 2009, 20:13, Reply)

Would she be able to support herself on her own if she leaves her husband?

( mistaspakkaman and the inedible shifting caterpillars, Mon 21 Sep 2009, 20:16, Reply)

Not sure, to be honest - she's not worked since she had me.
Never needed to; Father Maladicta could support us all on his wage and she has rather a lot of his money that she would need to give back. She'd likely need to get a job.
( Maladicta, Mon 21 Sep 2009, 20:32, Reply)

Now, that could be a problem
If she were to leave, she'd have an uphill struggle. Having been dependent on your dad for so long would mean she may not be accustomed to living in the real world.

I'm sure there must be some sort of organisation that helps recently divorced wives who've escaped failed marriages back on their legs?
( mistaspakkaman and the inedible shifting caterpillars, Mon 21 Sep 2009, 20:40, Reply)

She's more resilient than she gives herself credit for
but the thought of being without him gives her Teh Fear :(

I'll look into it - as I say I've told her what I think she should do, it's just a matter of persuading her short term pain for long-term happiness is a much better option than buying another house with a man she's not sure she still wants to live with...
( Maladicta, Mon 21 Sep 2009, 20:47, Reply)

Hopefully if this organisation has a web-forum
she can get in touch with other women in similar situations. Perhaps escaping alongside other women in similar situations might just give her the nudge she needs.
( mistaspakkaman and the inedible shifting caterpillars, Mon 21 Sep 2009, 21:00, Reply)

WTF?
Hugs to your mum xx
( Batshitmentalist is sane for once, Mon 21 Sep 2009, 20:11, Reply)

Welcome to the twisted mind of Father Maladicta :(
Thank you sweetie, hugs are much, much appreciated xx
( Maladicta, Mon 21 Sep 2009, 20:14, Reply)