So...
A friend of mine has through no fault of her own never really done the whole relationships thing, unfortunately this has led her to attach much more significance to events then would otherwise be justified. This has recently come to a head when a guy showed some interest in her and before they've even had their first date (Tonight!) she is referring to it as a "relationship".

The two problems here are:

A) Her flatmate is getting really pissed off with daily multi hour discussions about it and comparisons of the last guy who took her out on two dates to her recent dissolution of a two year relationship and so on.

B) Her immediate over involvement is basically a bright neon sign over her head flashing "Teh Crazy!!! Run!!!" so it ends up in a self perpetuating loop of "he didn't like me, no-one ever does, the next guy who shows an interest will be different" etc etc.

Edit to clarify: It was the flatmate asking for advice of what she should say/do.
(bill, Thu 19 Nov 2009, 15:10, 9 replies, latest was 16 years ago)

I'm confused
what do you want to know?
(Bazongaloid, Thu 19 Nov 2009, 15:11, Reply)

What advice [you would / I should] have given to the flatmate.

The best I could come up with was "put up with it and try to steer her to being less crazy as best you can"
(bill, Thu 19 Nov 2009, 15:14, Reply)

maybe warn her to keep the crazy in check for a while
but basically nothing.
(PsychoChomp, Thu 19 Nov 2009, 15:12, Reply)

do people listen to your advice?
it seems too sensible for anyone to pay attention to.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Thu 19 Nov 2009, 15:13, Reply)

No one ever listens to any relationship advice ever.
Unless it agrees with what they want to do.
(PsychoChomp, Thu 19 Nov 2009, 15:15, Reply)

^ this
Example:

'So you're saying I should stop calling him and leave him alone, that's your advice, okay sounds good'

*puts on stalking outfit*
(Flim-Flam the Magnificent "You is talking loco and I like it!", Thu 19 Nov 2009, 15:17, Reply)

I like to think that I'm not that bad at ignoring advice.
but generally I'll only ask people for advice if I know they'll agree with me.
(PsychoChomp, Thu 19 Nov 2009, 15:22, Reply)

I don't tend to ask for advice
I tend to wait until I have done something daft and then tell people what I have done! :)
(Flim-Flam the Magnificent "You is talking loco and I like it!", Thu 19 Nov 2009, 15:23, Reply)

this doesn't surprise me

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Thu 19 Nov 2009, 15:28, Reply)

Meh
I'm not bad at dishing out advice, but when it comes to accepting it I'm rubbish, so I tend to just bugger off and do something silly instead... it works for me, well, sort of.
(Flim-Flam the Magnificent "You is talking loco and I like it!", Thu 19 Nov 2009, 15:30, Reply)

I can only give good advice through the medium of email

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Thu 19 Nov 2009, 15:32, Reply)

Really?
I'm much better IRL
(Flim-Flam the Magnificent "You is talking loco and I like it!", Thu 19 Nov 2009, 15:33, Reply)

people don't seem to ask me for it face to face*
I'm not a particularly serious person


*even on subjects where I know more than everyone else they know.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Thu 19 Nov 2009, 15:37, Reply)

Hehe
You should distribute a pamphlet with your 'chosen subjects' so people know they can come to you about specific things! Hehe

I'm not a serious person either but people always ask me for advice, especially at work... its very strange, maybe I look like I know what I'm talking about?
(Flim-Flam the Magnificent "You is talking loco and I like it!", Thu 19 Nov 2009, 15:40, Reply)

at work is different
because I'm an "expert" at various things, so people are constantly asking me for advice.

Don't think anyone has ever asked me for relationship advice, despite having had a string of long and (until the end) successful ones.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Thu 19 Nov 2009, 15:49, Reply)

Hehe I mean they ask me for
relationship advice at work... most strange!

Awww, perhaps you should start your own OT Ask Vipros thread?
(Flim-Flam the Magnificent "You is talking loco and I like it!", Thu 19 Nov 2009, 15:56, Reply)

naa, it'd be full of "Why are you so smug?"

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Thu 19 Nov 2009, 16:01, Reply)

That is true!
Oh well
(Flim-Flam the Magnificent "You is talking loco and I like it!", Thu 19 Nov 2009, 16:05, Reply)

I tend to ask for opinions rather advice
because then people get less offended when I dismiss them instantly
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Thu 19 Nov 2009, 15:23, Reply)

I usually get advice if I want it or not.

(PsychoChomp, Thu 19 Nov 2009, 15:33, Reply)

Oh I hate those friends
'You know what you should do'

Yes, tell you to fuck off and stop messing around in ma bizniz!
(Flim-Flam the Magnificent "You is talking loco and I like it!", Thu 19 Nov 2009, 15:41, Reply)

very good point

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Thu 19 Nov 2009, 15:22, Reply)

She should do anal

( Naked Ape call me Caitlyn, Thu 19 Nov 2009, 15:12, Reply)

Crazy chicks always do.

(PsychoChomp, Thu 19 Nov 2009, 15:13, Reply)

That's why they're the best

( Naked Ape call me Caitlyn, Thu 19 Nov 2009, 15:13, Reply)

Tell her not to wear underwear and to periodically run her finger over her gushing slit
and stick it under the fellas nose.
(Bazongaloid, Thu 19 Nov 2009, 15:15, Reply)

Nah', you put it byhind your ear and invite him to smell her new perfume.

( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Thu 19 Nov 2009, 15:16, Reply)

or up her stinkhole
for added first date fruitiness
(Cancer Joy was short lived, Thu 19 Nov 2009, 15:18, Reply)

She sounds a bit like me.
Whenever I go out with a female mate, I reffer to it as a HAWT D8, or if it's a male mate, it's MAN-DATE, or if it's a group, it's an ORGY-DATE.

It helps out with the enivtablity that i'll be "Uncle Paul" around my best mate's place come christmas day 2025.
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Thu 19 Nov 2009, 15:16, Reply)

The flatmate
shouldn't say anything. Women are mental, if she does say anything it'll just end up being dragged up everytime they have an arguement for the next... well... forever!
(Flim-Flam the Magnificent "You is talking loco and I like it!", Thu 19 Nov 2009, 15:16, Reply)

That would have been my advice
if she didn't keep trying to get her to discuss it over and over
(bill, Thu 19 Nov 2009, 16:31, Reply)

If that's the case then
my remark counts double! If she's pushing for advice then she knows what she is doing is wrong... I foresee an argument!
(Flim-Flam the Magnificent "You is talking loco and I like it!", Thu 19 Nov 2009, 16:54, Reply)

just tell her like it is

( Lisette von Falcon, Thu 19 Nov 2009, 15:16, Reply)

Send her round mine
I LOVES me a bit of mental
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Thu 19 Nov 2009, 15:23, Reply)

Calm down, love!
is the best advice any woman ever received.

rafter
baz
(bazmorningstar efil4nat3b, Thu 19 Nov 2009, 15:23, Reply)

I LOL'd

(bill, Thu 19 Nov 2009, 16:29, Reply)