Simple solution
All her stuff will be outside the front gate for her to pick up without entering the house.

Been there done it. Such a pity it was raining at the time.
(oneinthepink is at your cervix m'lady, Tue 11 May 2010, 14:11, 1 reply, 16 years ago)

yeah but it's not down to Abberacion
It's down to her bloke and he's being a ponce.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Tue 11 May 2010, 14:15, Reply)

He is being a ponce, she is an ex and doesn't matter anymore

( Naked Ape call me Caitlyn, Tue 11 May 2010, 14:18, Reply)

If I tell him that
He'll be upset.

He's been invited to a few things (even a wedding) as long as I am not there. I've made very clear that if his friends (only the girls) don't like me, then he should rethink that friendship.

It's getting better, but it goes very slow. Maybe we should have stayed as friends, but now I love him to bits, so it's not an option anymore.
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Tue 11 May 2010, 14:21, Reply)

Is he going to those things that he's invited to?

( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Tue 11 May 2010, 14:22, Reply)

He deserves to be upset
you are more important than she is, and if this is upsetting you then he should put you first.

With regards to the wedding, were you not invited, or actively uninvited? I'm not inviting loads of boyfriends and girlfriends as I don't really know them and I don't have room.
( Naked Ape call me Caitlyn, Tue 11 May 2010, 14:24, Reply)

No, I was uninvited
He asked when he got the invitation (same as for a lot of other parties) and was told that I wasn't welcome because the girls don't like me.

So, he asked if I would be ok with him going, and I said no. So he's not going to the parties to make me happy, but not because he sees any problem about going.
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Tue 11 May 2010, 14:31, Reply)

I've got a friend in a similar position
where she has been deliberately and rudely not invited or uninvited from things because friends of her blokes ex are going to be there.

Gradually he has realised that those friends can fuck off.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Tue 11 May 2010, 14:30, Reply)

I hope my bf realizes soon
I feel awful about pulling him appart from his friends, though.
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Tue 11 May 2010, 14:32, Reply)

They ain't his friends.

( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Tue 11 May 2010, 14:34, Reply)

Well, the problem is that the boys are great
They are cool with me, and even supporting, and very happy that I helped their friend to be ok again.

It's the stupid bitches of their girlfriends. Women!
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Tue 11 May 2010, 14:35, Reply)

that doesn't surprise me at all

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Tue 11 May 2010, 14:36, Reply)

Actually I saw a group of male friends behave that way once
So it can be anyone.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Tue 11 May 2010, 14:38, Reply)

but usually it will be women
within my group of male friends we have all dated some fucking awful harridans (mostly my mate Adam) but we still accepted them into the group because they were with our mate.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Tue 11 May 2010, 14:42, Reply)

I agree
Although I've seen some bitchy men, it's mostly us, ladies, that get silly with gossiping.

It must come with the genes, or something.
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Tue 11 May 2010, 14:55, Reply)

I said the same thing to my friend
they are being stupid and petty and need to grow the fuck up.

he's moved on so there's no reason for them not to. I don't know the circumstances of how you got together, but assuming there wasn't any cheating or anything going on when he and she were still together there is definitely no cause for them to be such wankers.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Tue 11 May 2010, 14:34, Reply)

They think
We went together too soon, and should have waited longer for her to feel better. That's why they hate me.

Apart from one, who hates me because I'm Spanish and her ex-husband left her for a younger, prettier Spaniard.
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Tue 11 May 2010, 14:38, Reply)

ridiculous
maintaining a spiteful petty hatred because you and your bf acted in a way that didn't meet their approval.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Tue 11 May 2010, 14:41, Reply)

And the ex left HIM
So why the fuck did he have to wait for HER to be ok???
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Tue 11 May 2010, 14:43, Reply)

that makes it even worse

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Tue 11 May 2010, 14:48, Reply)

What makes it worse
Is the fact that the bf has had to stop doing things with his mates only because they don't like me.

I understand why he gets upset. He's not upset with me, he's upset at the situation. If it's only boys going out, everything is great. If there are girls invited, he's asked to stay at home or go without me. It's not fair on him either.
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Tue 11 May 2010, 14:57, Reply)

that really sucks
you have my sympathy

when my mrs met my friends it was at a fancy dress party. I had made her dress up as dangermouse. it went well.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Tue 11 May 2010, 15:07, Reply)

Nice on you!
And thanks. It's not really as bad as it sounds, most of the time we don't think much about it and go out with his mates.

Today it's being difficult, and I foresee a long night of talking, but I should be ok tomorrow.

Give time to time, it always works.
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Tue 11 May 2010, 15:09, Reply)

really, if they're true friends they'd try to get to know you or at least accept the situation
I was a major advocate against my bff's boyfriend, but I stopped myself, if being with him makes her happy then I'm happy for her
( Lisette von Falcon, Tue 11 May 2010, 14:34, Reply)