i never understand why people torture themselves
going out with exes.

I'm friends with most of mine, but never did anything socially so soon after splitting
(bamboozled Can hear you getting fatter, Mon 31 May 2010, 1:17, 2 replies, latest was 16 years ago)

Agreed
I'm still on speaking terms with mine, though mostly online with the most recent due to her nursing degree, met up with her in person twice since, the one that should have been sad was really nice, the one that should have been nice left me feeling really sad after.
First one was her meeting up so she could break the news gently that she had a new boyfriend. Not realising that I knew already due to it being on facebook (and me being on the internet constantly). Went out for dinner+movie, had a nice time and a nice chat, she didn't bring it up but I told her after that I already knew and it was generally a nice time.

The other time, went to visit her at uni, saw something on the "board of silly quotes" in their kitchen about her going up in her new nursing uniform and showing the new bloke (they'd been going out for a few months by this time) a good time, which, despite it being just a piss take, really put me down (though I did my best to hide it from her and didn't bring it up), especially since (at least when I was going out with her), she was one of those very christian no sex before marriage types. This was especially galling since I was just about ready to get back into trying to find someone new (I'd been laid up by a ton of medical things and really didn't want to bring anyone in on it, and the only person who I might have otherwise gone out with was similar enough to my ex that I was worried it would just be because I was missing her).

/vent
( Tedium Alduce me to interlow myself., Mon 31 May 2010, 1:31, Reply)

We have the same circle of friends,
and before we got together we were friends for 8 years, we had to get together and get the recriminations and stuff out the way so we can move on
( Batshitmentalist is sane for once, Mon 31 May 2010, 2:21, Reply)

well that's fair enough
just probably not as good an idea with alcohol
(bamboozled Can hear you getting fatter, Mon 31 May 2010, 2:41, Reply)

Actually, since we broke up
I've been a lot less mental. Sure, it hurts, but we got together 3 months after his wife died and right as hubby2 and I broke up. It's for the best, but still....
( Batshitmentalist is sane for once, Mon 31 May 2010, 3:36, Reply)