Yeah being fat definitely limits options
I've been at the size you saw me at at Soni for a few years now, but unless I was somehow much prettier a few years back, I was definitely more attractive back then as a size 10
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Wed 29 Sep 2010, 13:42, 2 replies, latest was 15 years ago)

yeah, but that's not the question.
thin and pretty vs fat and pretty, same person, size is the only separating characteristic so of course you'll see a difference

The only way you can fairly test between fat and pretty and thin and ugly is to lose weight AND batter yourself with a spade, and then check attention levels.

and that, DG, IS science. Trust me, I'm a doctor.
( the mighty badger Aphrodite, on a bar stool, by your side, Wed 29 Sep 2010, 13:50, Reply)

Perhaps
but the question I was responding to is the assertion that men are more attracted to thin women. That personality is very low down the scale if you are overweight- it becomes a thing of derision rather than attractive.

I speak from the experience of having been a size 14 at one point, and a size 10 at another. Also interesting when I was about a size 8 or even less due to illness, and looked absolutely terrible I still got quite a lot of attention from people asking me out
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Wed 29 Sep 2010, 13:55, Reply)

fucking hell, you think that size 14 is fat?
dear god. shit like Cosmo has a lot to answer for.

also - becomes a thing of derision how? Do you mean personally, or to a potential partner? because if it's the latter, you need to seriously re-consider who on earth you are spending time with..
( the mighty badger Aphrodite, on a bar stool, by your side, Wed 29 Sep 2010, 14:00, Reply)

How many times have you heard
'she's got a BIG personality.' I'm talking that level of derision not point and mock levels. Personality has become a term of mockery rather than a genuine incentive.

I'm 5 foot 5. And in the words of mother 'built like a Russian peasant' size 14 meant I was just plain tubby. Nor do I read Cosmo
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Wed 29 Sep 2010, 14:04, Reply)

Haha!
I was told I was built like a brick shithouse.
( girlinthehole, Wed 29 Sep 2010, 14:06, Reply)

I've been told I have childbearing hips
and a sticky out arse. Good job I'm so conceited or that would have hurt.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Wed 29 Sep 2010, 14:10, Reply)

If I hadn't read what you put below
I'd have reassured you that good hips and arse is a good thing.

now I'm toying with the idea of calling you a fat munter
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 29 Sep 2010, 14:14, Reply)

size 14 isn't fat. or tubby. Or built like a russian peasant, or whatever
and, my point stands. Stop spending time with wankers if you hear shit like that. Anyone retarded enough to think that's funny isn't worthy of your time or anyone else's.
( the mighty badger Aphrodite, on a bar stool, by your side, Wed 29 Sep 2010, 14:09, Reply)

They don't realise it
a lot of the time I think. And yeah size 14 isn't huge, unless everyone around you is an 8
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Wed 29 Sep 2010, 14:15, Reply)

You're so gay.

( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Wed 29 Sep 2010, 14:21, Reply)

I love the cock.

( the mighty badger Aphrodite, on a bar stool, by your side, Wed 29 Sep 2010, 14:32, Reply)

You're very good-looking.

( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Wed 29 Sep 2010, 13:52, Reply)

her face is up there
*points*
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 29 Sep 2010, 13:56, Reply)

Put that away, young man.

( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Wed 29 Sep 2010, 13:57, Reply)

Thanks Monty
sadly the world doesn't see it that way. Nor one particular friend who needs to be cunted in the fuck
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Wed 29 Sep 2010, 13:57, Reply)

Then the world
and your stupid friend, are gays.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Wed 29 Sep 2010, 13:58, Reply)

I did MTFU
and confront her over it.
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Wed 29 Sep 2010, 14:00, Reply)

good girl
where is she buried?
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 29 Sep 2010, 14:01, Reply)

Can you bury the remains acid leaves?

( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Wed 29 Sep 2010, 14:02, Reply)

acid eh?
I'm going to need a more robust prophylactic!
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 29 Sep 2010, 14:03, Reply)

haha!
Nah sounds terribly childish but I emailed her and told her what I thought, then deleted her off facebook
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Wed 29 Sep 2010, 14:05, Reply)

what had she done?

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 29 Sep 2010, 14:05, Reply)

the your/you're thing
bitch.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Wed 29 Sep 2010, 14:11, Reply)

Grounds for a judicious murder.

( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Wed 29 Sep 2010, 14:21, Reply)

She's a master of the snide putdown
a very confidence sapping person, who can only feel good about herself if someone else is made to feel bad at the same time. For example 'I've got 3 men currently competing for me' I give an ordinary response and get 'oh the right person will come along for you, not all men care about weight' etc. It just got overwhelming. So I told her to fuck off and take her issues with her
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Wed 29 Sep 2010, 14:13, Reply)

what a bitch
you did the right thing
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 29 Sep 2010, 14:16, Reply)

I've got to work on not being nice

( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Wed 29 Sep 2010, 14:21, Reply)

Copy me - I'm a fucking expert.

( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Wed 29 Sep 2010, 14:22, Reply)

be nice where it's due
life's too short to be nice to people who aren't worth it.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 29 Sep 2010, 14:24, Reply)