So did I, I was all panicky and commitment phobic about stuff like that
so it was never really mentioned, he just spent more and more time there until I got used to it. I do still enjoy the odd occasions when I get the flat to myself though.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Thu 7 Oct 2010, 14:32, 2 replies, latest was 15 years ago)

At times I practically say
"So, you're going home after work tomorrow."
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Thu 7 Oct 2010, 14:33, Reply)

haha aww poor Em
you'd miss her if she stayed away.

Wiggy used to go home for an hour or two a week to get his clothes washed until his mum stopped doing it. We have quite separate lives though, I'm out 2 nights a week teaching pole, he goes to his mates' house for a smoke which I don't really get involved in and then at the weekends we do stuff apart or together depending on convenience.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Thu 7 Oct 2010, 14:41, Reply)

That's just it, I don't know if I would
To be honest, someone has to be gone a LONG time before I miss them.

Em works a couple of late shifts a week, and seeing as she can't get home after then, it means she has to stay at mine. She doesn't see her friends on a weekly basis like I do, and has no other hobbies really.
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Thu 7 Oct 2010, 14:45, Reply)

find her a hobby
I hear pole dancing is good.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Thu 7 Oct 2010, 14:49, Reply)

She has zero motivation to do so
But she's also switching jobs at the moment, so not the best time to find a hobby.
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Thu 7 Oct 2010, 14:53, Reply)

I was all for moving in with my boyfriend
until I spent two weeks on holiday with him. I could cheerfully have killed him to death several times a day, most days. This has...complicated matters somewhat.
/sigh
(berk, Thu 7 Oct 2010, 14:40, Reply)

they do say the first holiday makes or breaks!
My best friend bought a house with her bloke after only a few months together and I thought that was just insane, but they've lasted. She used to go on and on about how perfect he was and I knew that would change as soon as she moved in with him, which it has, thankfully!
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Thu 7 Oct 2010, 14:42, Reply)

He has no idea
but, as I said to Amberl the other day - he was an arsehole of goatse proportions for almost the entire two weeks. I've been on holiday with him before and it was never as bad, and certainly things have been dodgy since we got back. I just don't think I can stand to live with him now, and if I can't stand to live with him, thean should I even be with him? Bleh, doubts are horrible.
I think I need the waaaaaahmbulance. /eeemmmooooo
(berk, Thu 7 Oct 2010, 14:48, Reply)

I'll join you in that waaaaahmbulance
Definitely doubting relationship stuff, and I feel rather shitty for doing so.
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Thu 7 Oct 2010, 14:49, Reply)

It's crap, isn't it?
You think things are ok, and everything is fine, then you remember just how much you wanted to punch them in the face, and oh look, they're doing that REALLY FUCKING ANNOYING thing again and complaining about you being a bit distant. Yes, I'm distant because I'm giving myself a hernia by internalising just how much I want to rage a bit right now, so if you could stop clinging that'd be great.
Aaaand breathe...
(berk, Thu 7 Oct 2010, 14:55, Reply)

AMEN
*highfives*
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Thu 7 Oct 2010, 14:57, Reply)

I understand what you mean
I had an ex who lived quite far away so I would spend all weekend with him and then not see him for two weeks so you would think I would cherish the whole time I spent with him but I found myself wanting a break from him after a day or two so I realised that it didn't really have a future if I couldn't stand to be with him for long periods and as soon as I noticed that I think I mentally wrote off the relationship so he couldn't do anything right after that.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Thu 7 Oct 2010, 14:54, Reply)

Been there, done that
Although I did enjoy spending my time with her every weekend.

I'm pretty convinced that I like my own space too much to ever commit myself fully into a relationship.
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Thu 7 Oct 2010, 14:56, Reply)

Amen and high fives to this also
Especially since I've lived essentially on my own for a good 7 years. Although I fear that 'my own space' and 'too cold and dead inside to actually love someone properly' are interchangeable in my case.
(berk, Thu 7 Oct 2010, 14:59, Reply)

Maybe in my case too
But that doesn't bother me.
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Thu 7 Oct 2010, 15:00, Reply)

I was once like you two
my friends said I was cold and dead and incapable of love, and I thought so too until I met Wiggy, so I think you just need to find the right person and the right balance. Although I think I got fucking lucky because he puts up with all my lazy, high maintenance shitehawkery.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Thu 7 Oct 2010, 15:09, Reply)

DTMFA

(lkjshaglkasjdhglkhjz lkcvl; g;aodh;owih, Thu 7 Oct 2010, 14:55, Reply)

Eh?

(berk, Thu 7 Oct 2010, 14:57, Reply)

Dump the motherfucking arsehole?

( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Thu 7 Oct 2010, 14:58, Reply)

Ditch the mother fucker already © Dan Savage

(lkjshaglkasjdhglkhjz lkcvl; g;aodh;owih, Thu 7 Oct 2010, 15:00, Reply)

holidays or working together are both good tests of a relationship

(lkjshaglkasjdhglkhjz lkcvl; g;aodh;owih, Thu 7 Oct 2010, 14:44, Reply)