Well, I suppose having said that, I don't have much conviction for it anymore
I have been the girl who someone was cheating on their girlfriend withand it was annoying that no one blames the cheating bloke, so I always maintained that it was the cheater who was at fault and not (entirely) the third party.

However (soppiness coming up) at the age I came to that conclusion I hadn't had a proper relationship and so I think that now if it happened I would feel just as betrayed by the other woman. However, the bloke is still 90% to blame for cheating.

But I wouldn't actively pursue another woman's man ever again. So not worth the hassle.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:50, 2 replies, latest was 15 years ago)

Not worth the hassle?
And a downright nasty thing to do as well!
Yes, okay, you weren't the one telling lies to his girlfriend but only taking 10% blame is getting off a bit lightly!
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:54, Reply)

I can't make a judgement on this
because I was with someone when I got together with Mrs V, however I was pretty certain from the offing that Mrs V and I would have something pretty significant...

not been involved in any kind of cheating otherwise. It'd fuck me right up if it happened now though I think.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:56, Reply)

it'll break you into a million pieces

( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:58, Reply)

it really would

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:59, Reply)

As I recall you and the lady before were on the rocks and you did the right thing and ended it
You weren't 'shagging' behind your bird's back' in that sense or for very long.
And she did not deliberately persue you as far as I know.
I always think it best to end one before going into another, but look, you're still together and you're getting married.
i think setting out to 'steal' someone is well mean.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:59, Reply)

not on the rocks so to speak
but I was slowly coming to the conclusion that our futures weren't compatible.

Didn't have sex with Mrs V until after breaking up with the ex either.

I would have broken it off immediately but we were all doing our finals and stuff at uni, so thought best not for the time being.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 14:02, Reply)

both are to blame, I agree
she was just all whiney and 'just think how I feel'. My reply was that she was a grown up and knew what she was doing. silly cow
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:57, Reply)