One of my very best friends was raped on March 18th this year.
She was walking home on her own in south London and said that she just "froze" when the cunt started grabbing at her. She can land a punch too.
(lkjshaglkasjdhglkhjz lkcvl; g;aodh;owih, Wed 3 Nov 2010, 13:48, 1 reply, 15 years ago)

I always wonder what allows rapists to get away with it unscathed
because I'd like to think that I would fight to the death over it, but I know a woman who was dragged into an alley and she said she just let it happen because she was so frightened that he would knife her or something.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Wed 3 Nov 2010, 13:51, Reply)

Yes, I know of a girl like that
And I've read several stories (in Spain, not here) of women defending themselves and being taking to justice for harming the guy.
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Wed 3 Nov 2010, 13:55, Reply)

really?
I would hope that a jury would never convict a woman for defending herself.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Wed 3 Nov 2010, 13:55, Reply)

Even if you kill someone while they were trying to rape you,
you wouldn't go to prison.
(PsychoChomp, Wed 3 Nov 2010, 13:56, Reply)

I'm not sure about that
There have been sentences failing in favour of the rapist because the woman was wearing tight jeans and that was provocative. Or the other one, when a woman didn't fight back because the guy had a knife on her throat, and the judge understood she gave her consent.
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Wed 3 Nov 2010, 14:07, Reply)

In the UK you wouldn't.

(PsychoChomp, Wed 3 Nov 2010, 14:12, Reply)

yeah I'm pretty sure you wouldn't over here
although the rapist might win a civil claim and the woman would have to pay damages.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Wed 3 Nov 2010, 14:15, Reply)

Yes, I think it's better for the woman here
but still, if you harm him defending yourself, he can probably take you to court and win the case.
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Wed 3 Nov 2010, 14:32, Reply)

depends on the police, evidence etc
good friend of mine got drugged and raped at a houseparty of one of her colleagues. the guy, a friend of her colleague, is saying it was consensual. she has a total mindblank and can't remember anything apart from one flashback, but tests proved that she did have sex. she would never in a million years have slept with him voluntarily.

she has witness evidence as two other girls weren't raped but were drugged and there is cctv footage of her rattling the gates of the development and screaming to be let out afterwards.

the police won't prosecute him because they say there is insufficient evidence.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Wed 3 Nov 2010, 14:50, Reply)

I have been very impressed with how precise and determined the Operation Sapphire officers have been in dealing with my friend's case. When I was interviewed (as a witness not a suspect before anyone says anything) the DC explained to me their biggest frustrations are getting the CPS to take it forward and having everything so watertight that the defence can't pick any holes in the prosecutions case.
(lkjshaglkasjdhglkhjz lkcvl; g;aodh;owih, Wed 3 Nov 2010, 14:53, Reply)

From the conversations I had with the SOIT officer (as I was the first to get to my friend afterwards) this freezing thing is very common.

(lkjshaglkasjdhglkhjz lkcvl; g;aodh;owih, Wed 3 Nov 2010, 13:55, Reply)

bit of a coincidence that you 'happened to be nearby' eh?
_{that's quite an insensitive joke, sorry, I must have been hanging out with Monty too often}
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Wed 3 Nov 2010, 14:16, Reply)

Took me 40 minutes to get there in a cab at 1am. Longest 40 minutes I have experienced.

(lkjshaglkasjdhglkhjz lkcvl; g;aodh;owih, Wed 3 Nov 2010, 14:18, Reply)