Aww noes
Scenario 2 for me and my ex... which is why he's an ex, goddamit. Nail on head there, CHCB.

When we split my mum gave me lots of good advice. I told her how much I admired the relationship she has with my stepdad as they are one of the most sorted couples I've ever seen.
"I don't know why" she said "we never talk about anything..." ... and then...
"Hmm, think I've just answered my own question"
She then expounded the theory that you're still the same people whether you talk about things or not, and everything passes anyway, so why bother?

Seems to work, maybe that's the secret?
Just a shame the advice came a year too late...
( warmfuzzies Isn't here, Thu 25 Sep 2008, 18:44, 1 reply)

^This!
This and: just because you're with someone doesn't mean you have to take responsibility for them. They are their own person. Don't try and change them. Or control them. Just get on with life and enjoy them for what they are.
( crackhouseceilidhband Fuck off back to Mumsnet, Thu 25 Sep 2008, 19:26, closed)

^ this too!
Absofuckinlootley.

Another pearl of wisdom from my mum:

Don't have any expectations (which is not the same as lowering your expectations).

And, she assures me, acceptance comes with age, as more and more you just can't be bothered... lol, sadly I think I'm beginning to agree with her there...

Her final lesson? If all else fails, wear a pink wig, especially when your partner comes home drunk in the middle of the night expecting you to be cross.

Keep teh faith! (and teh humour!)
( warmfuzzies Isn't here, Thu 25 Sep 2008, 20:09, closed)