I had a conversation recently with a girl I was seeing...
She said: "I don't think I'm a proper girl."
Bemused, for I knew that she most certainly was, I asked why not.
She replied: "I've never once logged into your facebook account or emails and gone through them, and I never steal your phone or read your messages."
I said: "Well, that's good, I'd probably break up with you if you did that. That's like reading someone's diary, it betrays a complete lack of trust. Why would you think to do that?"
And she said: "I was out with the girls the other night, and they were talking about their boyfriends and how they regularly go through their messages to check up on them."

Tbh I'm just glad she found it as creepy as I did, 'cause for those two weeks we were sharing my laptop and it would have been easy for her to access my accounts and "check up" on me...not that I've got anything worth hiding there anyway. Of course I could have easily read all her mails and messages too, but what's the point? Why go looking for trouble?
( emvee cruor deo cruoris, Mon 4 Feb 2008, 16:16, 11 replies)

Some people
Are very, very insecure.

Personally if I even considered looking into someone's messages or emails I'd wonder if a)I was losing it or b)they were the right one for me.

If you really care about someone (friend or lover) then you surely give them privacy...in other words you ensure they tell you EVERYTHING! Mwahahahahahahaha!*






*I'm kidding about the last bit, obviously...ahem...
( chickenlady b3ta's very own Elizabeth Taylor, Mon 4 Feb 2008, 16:20, closed)

Ahhh The old double bluff.
Your mrs is saying all that to make sure you don't check her messages.. read between the lines bro !
(TheRiddler Hmmmmm... I concur., Mon 4 Feb 2008, 16:52, closed)

is that really commonplace?
I've never read anyone's phone messages. I did read a bloke's diary once when I was young and foolish - he'd left it on MY bed, open at the page that said he was 'secretly' in love with my friend. They later ran off to Mexico together. She phoned to say she got cystitis two days into the trip and that's how we knew they were at it like bunnies. I hope it stung.
( crackhouseceilidhband Fuck off back to Mumsnet, Mon 4 Feb 2008, 17:36, closed)

@ CHCB
They ran off to Mexico together! Terrible for you but how wonderfully romantic otherwise.
( chickenlady b3ta's very own Elizabeth Taylor, Mon 4 Feb 2008, 17:45, closed)

@chickenlady
Oh, they came back a month later when they'd run out of money. Not very nice people, either of them. I didn't really care that they got together but I can't abide deceit. I was quite happy to see them together actually - they deserved the misery!
( crackhouseceilidhband Fuck off back to Mumsnet, Mon 4 Feb 2008, 18:10, closed)

Heh,
I gave my missus the benefit of the doubt and never once checked up on her even when it was blatantly obvious she was having an affair. It takes a while, but knowing you did things the right way eventually feels better than snooping on folk. Makes them all the more of a twat for breaking trust too.... it might be cold and lonesome on the moral high ground, but it's a lot easier to throw shit from up here lol.
( baw__bag contains traces of nuts on, Mon 4 Feb 2008, 19:22, closed)

^ lonesome on the high ground?
not really - I see so much integrity in many QOTW posts that I reckon there are plenty of us up there, nodding sagely at the feckers who can't even decrypt the basic moral codes.
( crackhouseceilidhband Fuck off back to Mumsnet, Mon 4 Feb 2008, 19:36, closed)

Tempted from Lurkdom... but I know post now
...this post made me recall my first week as a photographer. I was chatting to the design department I was working alongside(for the time).
I asked all 4 of them (one a fellow B3tan of more posting experience than me *waves*) if they had a friends computer would you look through it for dirt and gossip?
The first three thought I was strange for not even wanting to go through someones personal files and when I asked the fourth who agreed with me, its private and if they wanted me to know they would tell. It was decreed that the only reason is because he didn't know how.

Apologies for length... will go back to safe lurking distance.

Nice to see people to remind me of this story, thanks
(Ismadefromgoldenrod, Mon 4 Feb 2008, 21:03, closed)

Last will and testament
Among the other things I'm to do when Mum pops her clogs, the Last Boot stands out.

Go into Outlook Express and send a mass email to the whole address book saying she's dead and the account is closed. On no account am I to read any messages. Then I'm to log in as admin and use a bootfragger to wipe the HDD. All the back up CDs are to be burned.

I'm torn between carrying out her last request, and incredibly curious about what she's hiding.
(all my scars face forward possesses 2.5% of a hyperalloy combat chassis, Mon 4 Feb 2008, 21:16, closed)

i had friends like that
every time their blokes went out, even to the shop, they'd pinch their phones when they got back to see if they'd been messaging anyone. i've even had girls asking me to seduce their blokes, just to see if they're faithful. needless to say, i didn't remain friends with these nutcase bunny-boilers for long. if someone wants me to know something, they'll tell me. if they don't, they won't, that's that.
( Smash Monkey lowering the tone of the whole internet, Tue 5 Feb 2008, 1:31, closed)

Call their bluff
I had a girlfriend once who used to check through my phone, so I changed one of my mate's names to her mum's name on my contact list and got him to send me fake sexy texts.

I was SOOOOOO dumped
(magic the cat will someone please think of the kittens, Tue 5 Feb 2008, 14:48, closed)